Dirty talk or sexy talk in the bedroom can be an incredible turn-on for a lot of people. However, most of us don’t actually do it because we’re not certain how to. So, I’m going to give you very simple tips and techniques to drive your lover crazy using just your words!
When I was younger, I was never into talking dirty in bed
I wasn’t into talking in bed – period. Once the sexy action started, all you would hear from me would be an occasional moan. Or a giggle. That’s it!
All of that changed in my late 20s, when I got together with a particularly talkative lover. It was a casual affair but lasted for at least 6 months because we really liked each other and sex was really good.
And he always talked in bed
It seemed so natural and effortless to him. Like, he didn’t even have to think about it, he didn’t have to wonder what to say. He would just speak. And I could clearly tell that it was giving him a lot of pleasure and increasing his turn-on.
And he would ask me to speak as well. And a great thing about him was that he would help me out in the beginning. He knew that I wasn’t used to talking dirty so he was happy to help. He would say things like “Tell me (this or that)”, “Tell me how wet you are, tell me how great my cock feels inside of you”, etc.
He taught me a lot not just about talking dirty but also about making it fun and truly enjoying myself in the process
I actually learned how to get turned on by dirty talk – whether it was me who was speaking or my lover.
So if talking dirty is something you’d like to try or learn how to do masterfully, here are my 5 top tips for hot sexy talk:
1/ Say what you want
Telling your partner what you want can be a true turn-on. This will be particularly hot when it’s something you’re authentically desiring, something that truly excites you. This also helps them give you more pleasure since you’re clearly expressing your desires that they can then fulfil. This can be things like:
“I want to ravish you.”
“I can’t wait to taste on you my lips.”
“I want you inside of me.” Or “I want to be inside of you.”
“I want you to come all over me.”
“I want you to spank my bum, while you’re putting that big hard cock of yours deep in my pussy.”
2/ Say what you’re going to do
Before you do something, tell your partner what you’re going to do to them. When you’re talking about things that are about to happen, you’re actually increasing the hotness of the moment for both of you by creating an anticipation of these yummy things to come. For example:
“I’m going to suck you and lick you until you’re hot and ready to explode.”
“I’m going to make you scream with pleasure.”
“Relax and let me take care of you.”
“I’m going to tease you until you can’t take it any longer.”
3/ Say what you’re feeling
The next easy way to talk dirty is to simply express what you’re feeling in the moment. The more descriptive you are about things that are actually happening in the moment, the better this will work. This can be things like:
“This feels so fucking amazing!” “I’m getting so turned on” “I’m dripping wet for you”
“I love it when you squeeze your pussy around me like that”
“Your cock feels so incredibly good inside of me!”
“You lick my pussy so good!”
“I could spend all day between your legs.”
4/ Say what you love about them
Tell your lover what’s really yummy and delicious about them – about how they look, about their scent, about how their touch and body feels on your skin, what you love about them as your lover, etc. For example:
“You have such perfect cock” or “You have such perfect pussy.”
“You taste so good, baby”
“You fuck me so well, you’re an incredible lover.”
“You look so sexy right now”
“I love the sounds you’re making”
5/ Use their trigger words
As a bonus tip, chances are there are particular words, body parts, expressions or activities that are a special turn-on for your lover. So make sure to use them, to speak in a way that is most customized for your partner’s desires and preferences.
If you’re not sure what they are, start listening to your partner closely when they talk about your sex life. Or even ask them about their specific fantasies or about things they’d enjoy hearing from you in bed.
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