How to Give a Woman a Yoni Massage

What is yoni massage?


Yoni massage is a beautiful ceremony of worshipping your partner’s body and genitals. 

In the tantric tradition the lovers celebrate each intimate moment together by creating rituals that infuse their connection with a sense of specialness and sacredness.

From the outside, it looks a lot like a vulva or a vagina massage. But there’s so much more to an amazing yoni massage. And I’m here to show you the step-by-step process on how to give a woman a tantric yoni massage that will completely change her life.

The Benefits of Giving a Yoni Massage


– Stronger intimate connection that brings more love and tenderness between the two of you 

– Increasing her body’s pleasure potential and sensitivity to your touch (which means an all round more satisfying sex life – Yes please!)

– Increasing her orgasmic potential (which means you’re giving her a much stronger, mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasms)

– Help her to feel more sexually empowered and alive in her body

– Increase your own knowledge of her body, her pleasure zones, what she likes and how to turn her on.


OK. I’m Ready. What’s The Yoni Massage process?


Start by preparing the space – cleaning the bedroom and beautifying it. You can prepare some music, bring candles, extra cushions, incense sticks, etc. It should be warm, cozy and inviting. (You want her to feel comfortable so she can really let go)

Next invite her to sit down on the bed with you and tell her something beautiful about her. Tell her what you love about her, what you appreciate about her, what you’re looking forward to.


After that spend a few minutes simply looking into her eyes. Eye-gazing is a very simple, yet deeply profound ritual of connection and intimacy.


When she’s ready, invite her to lie down and spend at least 15 minutes relaxing her body. Use gentle, soft, flowing strokes. Imagine that you’re making love to her skin with your hands.


Once she’s deeply relaxed, you can begin to massage her genitals – her yoni. Here is a list of tips and strokes that you will find useful. Make sure to also use your creativity and imagination. The yoni massage process is not set in stone and should flow in response to what her body wants and needs.


Tips: use massage oil, take your time, keep asking for feedback and remember to have fun!


Specific Yoni Massage Techniques


Here is a range of yoni massage techniques that you can use to worship and give your woman pleasure. You can pick and choose as you like, but I highly recommend you start with 1-5, or just follow these yoni massage steps all the way through.


1/ Waking up the area:

Massage lower abdomen in circular strokes, rest one hand over the genitals, the other one on the heart, massage the groin, knead and scratch the pubic mound, grab fingerfuls of pubic hair and pull.

2/ Vibrate the vulva:

Place your entire hand over the vulva. Hold and vibrate.

3/ Saying hello:

With well-oiled hands pet the vulva with long, slow strokes from top to bottom.

4/ Outer labia massage:

Hold left outer labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

5/ Inner labia massage:

Hold left inner labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

6/ Tour de France:

With one hand gently pull the pubic mound up toward the belly to open up the vulva. With a finger of your other hand, trace a circle between inner and outer labia from the perineum to above the clitoris and back to the perineum. For extra yum, add a little loop around the clitoris.

7/ Divine drumming:

Tap the inner thighs and vulva with your flat hand, as if playing a drum. Ask for feedback – harder? softer? faster? slower?

8/ Breath of spring:

Gently part the labia and blow air on them.

9/ Rock around the clit clock:

Pretend that the clitoris is the center of a clock. With your finger, make tiny circles immediately to the side of the clit, stopping at the location of each hour.

10/ Insert one finger:

Ask for permission and use lots of oil. Very slowly, insert one finger in the vagina. Don’t do anything once you’re inside, just be there.

11/ The four directions:

With one or two fingers inside the vagina, stroke or press firmly upward (toward the ceiling). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise and press to one side. Turn your hand 90 degrees again and press downward (toward the floor). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise once more and press to the other side. Repeat.

12/ The G-spot:

Locate and massage the entire urethral sponge with one or two fingers.

13/ The doorbell:

Press firmly on the g-spot, as if ringing a doorbell. Press, release, press, release…

14/ Kegels:

Invite your partner to add kegels.


This is really just the beginning and in my Tantric Mastery online course I teach more yoni strokes and other powerful techniques to pleasure a woman. Click here to check it out to learn everything you need to know to become the best lover she’s ever had.


This massage is a very special experience for any woman as it will place her in a state of a trance-like ecstatic bliss. However, orgasm should never be an end goal here. If she orgasms – great! If she doesn’t – no problem. She will experience the level of pleasure she has likely never felt before and it will take her into a place of deep pleasure and satisfaction.

The massage should take at least 30 minutes or more, depending on how generous you’re feeling!

The main point is – take your time and stay present with her body, watch her responses, keep checking for feedback and enjoy!

Want to know what the equivalent looks like for men? Click here for an amazing Lingam Massage for men! (You can use these techniques for yourself, or give this to your partner so they have an easy step-by-step process to follow as well)

Helena Nista Sex Therapist
Hi! I'm Helena Nista

I help men, women, and couples experience deeper intimacy, more connected sex, and mind-blowing pleasure. Follow me on Social Media for more awesome Tantric tips, tricks, and techniques!

Helena Nista Tantra
Learn The Secrets Of Tantric Lovers

Sign up for free access to the Tantra For Beginners online course and explore the world of ancient ecstatic practices.

  1. A. Chakravarthy

    I took my wife for tantrik yoni massage. It was for 2 hrs. I was not there as some work came. She got that massage and really she was quite comfortable and chilled after that. That day was the first and then onwards she goes regular almost 4 times a week. She is now eagerly waiting for that

  2. Charles Costa

    That means you wife is totally satisfied with the therapist’s total touch and the pleasure he must have given every time.

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Related Articles

Drop Me A Line

Don't be shy. Let me know if you have any questions!

Get Connected

Follow me on Social Media