I recently posted a video about the best way to finger a pussy. It’s been one of my most popular videos to date and it keeps getting more and more views every day.


So today I’m going to continue in the spirit of giving our partners amazing touch, pleasure and affection but this time we’re going to use our hands to handle, touch and stroke his penis. Ooh-la-la! This one is going to be hot!


What a Skilful Penis Massage Can Do For You


A lot of people talk about the depth of woman’s pleasure and orgasmic potential. Some people even claim that she is capable of orgasms which are 10 times more powerful than those of a man.


But in my experience most men have not even scratched the surface of their own erotic power. Men who slow down in order to feel their pleasure more deeply, men who bring much more awareness to their breath and their sensitivity, these men can without a question match a woman’s ecstatic bliss.


Negative messages about the penis


Unfortunately, most men have received a lot of negative conditioning around their sexuality and their penises. But the great news is that a well-performed penis massage can overcome these challenges and guide the owner of the massaged penis to states of incredible beauty, yumminess and full-body bliss!


Some of the biggest problems I see in my clients are:

  • A sense of rush – once the erection is there, most men feel unable to delay the orgasm and keep rushing into the climax way too quickly, hence not giving themselves a chance to build up enough arousal for a powerful orgasm,
  • Disconnect from the senses – many men use fantasy or porn in order to support their arousal but by doing that regularly, over time they train their nervous system to become numbed down and disconnected, stopping them from experiencing full depth of their sexual pleasure


So how can a woman massage his penis in a way that will support him in opening and accessing his deeper potential for pleasure and expanded orgasms? Let me show you…


Step-by-step penis massage process


1/ intention for your sensual massage


Always start with an intention. Before you even touch his penis, look your partner deep in the eye and share your intention with him. Tell him that this massage is for him. Tell him that you’re going to take your time and that you’re going to celebrate, pleasure and love his cock with your hands.


Reassure him that nothing is required of him. That he doesn’t need to ejaculate or even remain hard the whole time. Tell him that his body and penis are welcome to respond in any way that they want to. And that he doesn’t need to worry about anything else than receiving your touch.


2/ relax him before you massage his penis


Ask him to lie on his back and relax, while you’re gently, lovingly stroking and massaging his entire body. This party isn’t necessarily about the penis but you don’t have to avoid it. It might be quite fun to actually casually allow your hands to go over his cock and balls from time to time…


And BTW, if you’re enjoying what I teach, make sure to check out my Tantric Sex for Couples online course which is full of amazing, ecstatic and fun rituals and practices that partners can perform together to take their intimate connection to a whole new level!


3/ different techniques to stroke his penis


Start by oiling his magic wand. You can use any massage oil he likes or simply opt for a coconut oil if you’re not sure what to choose. It will be a lovely touch to warm up the oil first a bit so that it’s not too cold.


While you’re applying the oil to his genital area, do it slowly and gently. While you’re doing that, it can be a wonderful addition to actually tell him what you love and adore about his penis and his scrotum. Most men never hear loving words about their genitalia so it might be a truly wonderful experience for him to hear your words of appreciation.


  • Wake up the area

Start by massaging his inner thighs, his groin, his lower belly and pubic bone. All these areas are sensitive and will respond well to your touch.


  • Sweeping it up

Place your hands on his inner left thigh and sweep up along his thigh over his penis and down the inside of the other thigh. Go back and forth a few times.


  • Scrotum

Support his ball sack with one hand from underneath and massage the skin with the fingers of your other hand. Don’t squeeze the testicles but rather massage the skin between them.


  • Jiggle

Cup your hand over the head of the penis so your fingertips hold the top of the shaft and jiggle your hand making a vibration. Stop and jiggle again.


  • Rock around the Clock

Firmly stroke along the shaft of his penis, one hand after the other one, going from the base to the head and then starting again at the base. Keep changing the direction so you take his penis through all the hours of the clock. In the 12 o’clock position you’re stroking towards the navel and at 6 o’clock – straight down.


  • Up and down

Hold his penis at the middle of the shaft with your left hand just below the right. Have the lower hand stroke from the middle of the shaft down to the base as the upper hand strokes at the same time from the middle up over the head. You can add a little twist for an extra sensation.


  • Infinite penetration

Embrace the head of the penis with one hand and the allow your hand to slide down the shaft. As that’s happening, place your other hand around his hand and start sliding it down as well. As soon as one hand reaches the base of his cock, bring it back up to the head and continue the motion.


  • Pop the cork

Imagine that your dominant hand is a bottle opener. Have the palm facing upward while holding the shaft of his penis between your fingers. With the base of his cock held by your other hand, run your upper hand along the top half of his shaft in a twisting motion, as though you were popping a cork.


  • Making fire

Roll the penis between the palms of your hands as if you were rubbing two sticks together to create fire. Start slowly and build up to a faster pace. Then slow down again.


  • Juicer

Hold the penis at the base while your other hand is performing a juicing motion on the head. Use your fingertips to make circular strokes to juice his cock.


Don’t be shy here and if you’re not certain how you’re doing, ask him for feedback. He might prefer a little more pressure or less pressure. He might like some of the penis strokes more than others and he’ll want you to spend more time on his favourite strokes.


Make sure to also play with speed, variety and also make up your own strokes to give him even more pleasure.


4/ edging him before orgasm


While you’re stroking him, make sure to not take him over the edge of orgasm too quickly. If he becomes too aroused, stop the stimulation and guide him to relax and breathe deeply. You can learn much more about edging from my video here.


Remember that this is not a race but a feast for his senses. Take your time, slow down and guide him on an ecstatic journey.


5/ enjoy yourself!


The energy behind your touch is a big part of this experience. So make sure to enjoy the process. Don’t do anything that you don’t want to do because his body will sense your resistance.


Remember that touch is 2-directional and that while you’re touching him, you’re also experiencing his skin on your own skin. Be present with that sensuality of your shared experience together and have fun with it!

These strokes are really just the beginning so after you’ve tried them all, let your imagination run wild and keep giving him new, different, surprising kinds of stimulation. This is your experience so be an active creator in it!


And if you’d like to learn even more about taking your sex life to a completely new level, make sure to check out Tantric Sex for Couples.

TANTRIC SEX FOR COUPLES: a 5-week online course for any couples who want to upgrade their sex life and relationship.

Tantric couples enjoy a very rich, nurturing, playful and intimate connection in the bedroom and outside of it. 

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