Yoni massage is a beautiful ceremony of worshipping your partner’s body and genitals. It should be offered as a gift – you won’t require her to do anything for you afterwards. This gift comes from a place of love and generosity. She might choose to have sex with you after the massage or she might just want to cuddle or talk. Do not pressure her to do anything, allow her to just receive.


You should start by preparing the space – cleaning the bedroom and beautifying it. You can prepare some music, bring candles, extra cushions, incense sticks, etc. It should be warm enough and cozy.

Next invite her to sit down on the bed with you and tell her something beautiful about her. Tell her what you love about her, what you appreciate about her, what you’re looking forward to, etc.

After that spend a few minutes simply looking into her eyes. Eye-gazing is a very simple, yet deeply profound ritual of connection and intimacy.


When she’s ready, invite her to lie down and spend at least 15 minutes relaxing her body. Use gentle, soft, flowing strokes. Imagine that you’re making love to her skin with your hands.

Once she’s deeply relaxed, you can begin to massage her genitals – her yoni. Here is a list of tips and strokes that you will find useful. Make sure to also use your creativity and imagination. This process is not set in stone and should flow in response to what her body wants and needs.


Tips: use massage oil, take your time, keep asking for feedback and remember to have fun!

1/ Waking up the area: massage lower abdomen in circular strokes, rest one hand over the genitals, the other one on the heart, massage the groin, knead and scratch the pubic mound, grab fingerfuls of pubic hair and pull.

2/ Vibrate the vulva: place your entire hand over the vulva. Hold and vibrate.

3/ Saying hello: with well-oiled hands pet the vulva with long, slow strokes from top to bottom.

4/ Outer labia massage: hold left outer labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

5/ Inner labia massage: hold left inner labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

6/ Tour de France: with one hand gently pull the pubic mound up toward the belly to open up the vulva. With a finger of your other hand, trace a circle between inner and outer labia from the perineum to above the clitoris and back to the perineum. For extra yum, add a little loop around the clitoris.

7/ Divine drumming: tap the inner thighs and vulva with your flat hand, as if playing a drum. Ask for feedback – harder? softer? faster? slower?

8/ Breath of spring: gently part the labia and blow air on them.

9/ Rock around the clit clock: pretend that the clitoris is the center of a clock. With your finger, make tiny circles immediately to the side of the clit, stopping at the location of each hour.

10/ Insert one finger: ask for permission and use lots of oil. Very slowly, insert one finger in the vagina. Don’t do anything once you’re inside, just be there.

11/ The four directions: with one or two fingers inside the vagina, stroke or press firmly upward (toward the ceiling). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise and press to one side. Turn your hand 90 degrees again and press downward (toward the floor). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise once more and press to the other side. Repeat.

12/ The G-spot: locate and massage the entire urethral sponge with one or two fingers.

13/ The doorbell: press firmly on the g-spot, as if ringing a doorbell. Press, release, press, release…

14/ Kegels: invite your partner to add kegels.

This is really just the beginning and in my Legendary Lover course I teach over 50 more yoni strokes.

This massage is a very special experience for any woman as it will place her in a state of a trance-like ecstatic bliss. However, orgasm should never be an end goal here. If she orgasms – great! If she doesn’t – no problem. She will experience the level of pleasure she has likely never felt before and it will take her into a place of deep pleasure and satisfaction.

The massage should take at least 30 minutes or more, depending on how generous you’re feeling!

The main point is – take your time and stay present with her body, watch her responses, keep checking for feedback and enjoy!

Tip: click here for an amazing Lingam Massage for men!


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