Last week I shared with you beautiful strokes and techniques of a yoni massage that men can pamper their partners with. This week we’re continuing in the spirit of giving and offering love, intimacy, affection and pleasure. And now it’s time for ladies to offer genital massage to their partners – what’s called ‘Lingam massage’ in Tantra.

Below is a selection of my favourite penis strokes for most pleasure, fun and bliss.

But ladies – do make sure to go slow and tease your partner instead of making him cum quickly. This massage should take at least 30 minutes so if he’s getting too aroused, stop the genital stimulation and guide him to relax and breathe deeply. Once his erection goes down a bit, you can resume the lingam strokes.


Tips: use massage oil, keep asking for feedback, be creative, have fun!

1/ Waking up the area: massage the groin, gently massage the scrotum (pull the skin, tug on pubic hair, scratch, caress – don’t massage the testicles, just the scrotal skin), massage pubic bone.

2/ Sweeping it up: place hands on inner left thigh and sweep along the thigh up over the penis and down the inside of the other thigh. Repeat back and forth a few times.

3/ Jiggle: cup your hand over the head of the penis so your fingertips hold the top of the shaft and jiggle your hand making a vibration. Stop and jiggle again.

4/ Rock around the clock: firmly stroke along the shaft of the penis, one palm after the other from the base up the head, then starting again at the base. Keep changing the direction so you take the lingam through all the hours of the clock. In the 12 o’clock you’re stroking towards the navel, at 6 o’clock – straight down.

5/ Up and down: hold his lingam at the middle of the shaft with the left hand just below the right. Have the lower hand stroke from the middle of the shaft down to the base and as the upper hand strokes at the same time from the middle up over the head. Add a little twist for an extra sensation.

6/ Infinite penetration: make a circle with the thumb and fingers of your left hand and take that circle over the head of his wand so it has to push through, like entering your yoni. Now put your other hand on top of that, making an open fist like the cylindrical shape of the barrel. Slide your hands down so the lingam passes through both hands until the circle on your left hand reaches the base of his lingam. Then immediately start him entering a circle made again with your left hand and so on.

7/ Pop the cork: imagine your dominant hand is a bottle opener. Have the palm facing upwards and the head of his lingam gently held between your well-oiled first and second knuckles. With the base of his lingam held by your other hand, run your upper hand along the top half of the penis shaft in a twisting motion as though you were popping  cork.

8/ Making fire: roll the lingam between the palms of your hands as if you were rubbing two sticks together to create a fire. The lingam is the fire stick. Start slowly, build up to a faster pace, then slow down again.

9/ Stroking the frenulum: if your man has a foreskin, gently pull it down. Support the lingam with your fingers while your thumbs are massaging the frenulum in circles. Get feedback as this area can be extremely sensitive.

10/ Juicer: hold the lingam at the base, with the other hand act as if you were juicing a lemon on the head of his penis. Use your fingertips to make circular motion to ‘juice’ up and down along the shaft.

11/ Lingam shiatsu: support the penis with your fingers while your thumbs make circular strokes all the way up the shaft, from the base up to the head.


You can print out these tips or memorize them. But definitely give this massage a go and comment below on your partner’s reaction!

And if you’re curious to learn more, I offer over 50 more lingam strokes in my Legendary Lover online course for men!


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