I must admit that I’ve been feeling fairly low on energy lately. It is currently winter in the southern hemisphere and the days are getting shorter and shorter. When it’s cold and dark outside, it’s extra difficult to feel uplifted, joyful or energized. So I’ve been allowing myself to stay in a bit more, to achieve a little less than usually and even to have some lazy mornings in bed. My friends and clients are usually reflecting the same tendencies as they’re finding it extra hard to perform as usual.
Even your libido can take a hit during times like that. One of my clients wrote to me a few days ago, complaining that he had lost all his sexual desire. And as much as we can more or less handle the general feeling of fatigue and lethargy sometimes, we do start to worry when it affects our sex lives. We wonder if something is wrong and if we have a problem that needs to be addressed. Many men start to question themselves as lovers, particularly if usually they have a healthy appetite for sex. We want to feel great again – we want our mojo back.
Life is cyclical
In the world run by coffee, sugar and high-speed media, we feel like we always need to do more, do it faster and better. We have never ending to-do lists and we feel guilty about taking a day off. Simply enjoying life is no longer enough and we need to be productive, efficient and creative. But that’s not how life works.
Life is cyclical, it goes through seasons, it changes and fluctuates. Sometimes we feel great and ready to conquer the world and sometimes we just want to hibernate and be left alone. We tend to deal with low times by using stimulants but they simply drain our bodies in the long term, making us depleted and sick. Our bodies have a rhythm that we should respect and listen to. They will then reward us with a much better physical experience and better health.
Are you guilty?
Are you guilty of pushing yourself a little too hard when you’re not feeling up for it? Do you still go to work, even when you’re not feeling well? Do you drink coffee instead of getting enough sleep or taking a few breaks during the day? Do you tend to always expect more from your body than it can deliver? I’ve definitely been guilty of many of these things in my life. I used to set crazy expectations for myself and each day used to be full to the brink. I also used to expect my body to always be ready for my lovers and to perform in bed. Any health problem would make me panic, because I was so scared of not being able to work or operate as normal.
Dealing with the low times
But I’ve changed. I’ve been on a deep journey with my body and I’ve learned that sometimes I can climb the mountains and other times I need to nap and watch Netflix. I am now recognizing and acknowledging these seasons within my body and I listen to them. And when my lover is around, I may need to tell him sometimes that we’re just going to cuddle. When my client asked me what to do about his lost mojo, I told him to be compassionate with himself. I told him to nurture his body and to relax instead of worrying. These things happen, nothing is wrong. So instead of meeting all the deadlines, it might be time to turn off the computer and to run yourself a bath. Or maybe taking a full day off might be in order. You might need to spend a day in nature and meditate. Or take your family out and enjoy their company. Struggling through low times never produces great results and it’s often much better to give yourself a break. When the low time is over, you’ll be able to create something much better and with much less effort.
So find your flow, respect and nurture yourself during the low times. You’ll end up with a healthier body, stronger sense of wellbeing and much better results of your efforts.
And your libido?
That will return too, when your body is good and ready 🙂
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