5 Steps to Full Body Orgasms

5 Steps to Full Body Orgasms

There are orgasms… and there are full-body orgasms! The two aren’t the same, they feel different and they affect you differently – physically, energetically and emotionally. So if you’re curious what a full-body orgasm is and how to have one or give one to your partner, keep reading!

 

Whenever I’m asked what a full-body orgasm is, I’m a bit lost for words

 

And that’s because it’s extremely difficult to describe with language an experience that’s beyond anything that my mind could ever fully grasp. It’s a bit like trying to describe a new colour using just words – it’s just very, very hard 😉

 

But I guess the first thing here is to understand what an orgasm actually is because that will give you a gateway into its fuller potential in your body. So an orgasm is a release of energy, of a sexual energy. First we build up arousal and sexual charge and then eventually we get to a point where that charge is too intense to hold in the body, and the energy is released during an orgasm.

 

When we tense up our bodies in bed, that orgasmic release will typically happen externally

 

Men release their sexual charge out together with the semen during ejaculation. And women release it externally through a clitoral orgasm.

 

But! both men and women can learn to re-direct that orgasmic release inwards and upwards, which will lead to experiencing a full-body orgasm – an orgasm which feels expansive, profound and deeply blissful as it keeps flowing internally through your entire system.

 

It feels like every cell of your body is orgasming!

 

And instead of leaving you feeling drained and disconnected afterwards, this kind of expanded orgasms feel nurturing, energizing and deeply pleasurable.

 

It feels like a difference between a genital sneeze and a waterfall of erotic waves and ripples flowing through your entire system. So if you’re ready to upgrade your orgasms from sneezes to waterfalls, I’m going to tell you how to do just that!

 

1/ relax your body

Muscle tension causes energetic blockages in the body and stops the energy from flowing freely. So make sure to keep your body relaxed and open. Particularly your pelvic area should be free from any muscular tension.

 

2/ notice the sensations

Placement of your awareness is very important here. Where your attention goes, that’s where the energy flows.

If your attention is firmly held in your genitals, it’ll be hard for your energy to flow and expand. So keep noticing the sensations in your entire body, even the most subtle ones!

 

3/ breathe deeply

Your breath is a magical tool. Your breath is what actually makes the energy move. So keep your breathing slow, deep and relaxed. Allow your breath to travel all the way down to your pelvis.

 

Also, don’t hold the breath at any point. Keep the inhale flowing immediately after each exhale and each exhale immediately after each inhale, etc. Like an uninterrupted circle of breath.

 

4/ visualisation

The mind-body connection is powerful so use it to your advantage! Imagine pulling your energy upward through your body. Visualise it as a moving, expanding and circulating wave of light or colour. Use any particular visualisation that you find most helpful.

 

5/ sound

And finally sound. Sound is a powerful tool because the vibration of the sound moves energy. So open your mouth as you exhale and let out a sigh, a moan or any other sound that feels natural and delicious to you.

 

A lot of people shy away from making sounds during sex or masturbation but they’re just missing out on a very potent and powerful experience.

 

How about you – have you ever experienced full-body orgasms? How did it happen? And were you able to re-create the experience?

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Have you ever heard of slow sex? What comes to mind when you hear these words together? Slow – sex… What kind of scenes do you see when you picture it in your head? Can you even picture it?

 

When I first heard of this notion, I was shocked and surprised. In my mind, these two words did not belong together. It sounded like a contradiction. And I was sure as hell that I had never experienced it. For many years of my life up to that point, sex was always fast and frantic – full of excitement, friction and rush, with almost non-existent foreplay.

 

So discovering slow sex was quite challenging at first since it questioned everything I knew about sex up to that point. But it also brought unexpected rewards and delights.

 

Slowing down and taking your time is a huge part of having a satisfying sex life. But most people are strongly conditioned for fast friction and chasing the orgasm. Would you like to learn how slowing down can revolutionize your sex life and create more pleasure and stronger intimacy?

 

I first heard of slow sex about 6 years ago. I was reading a book by Diana Richardson called “Slow sex” and at the time her ideas completely confused me and even scared me! Because after all, what was left in sex if you took away all the fast friction, all the excitement and all the animalistic passion? I couldn’t understand what slowing down was supposed to bring to the lovemaking.

 

As you can probably tell, my sex life back then was pretty mediocre.

 

And the sex itself was based more on ideas found in porn than in bedrooms of real, loving, intimate couples. It took me a while to learn that really mind-blowing sex isn’t just about friction and chasing that orgasm but more about a heart connection, about sensitivity and sensual touch, about profound pleasure, about breathing together and feeling the erotic energy in your body, enjoying the arousal building up, cherishing the togetherness, and about having a very special, magical, intimate time with your lover.

 

And it’s actually a bit sad when we reduce sex to just a chase towards orgasm. Because it is about so much more! And when we slow down, we can actually pay attention to other aspects of our lovemaking. We can open up our hearts to each other. We can awaken deep sensitivity within our bodies, using gentle, slow touch. We can create a meaningful container for our love which turns sex into a magical ritual of loving connection, pleasure and fun.

 

And for all the more daring lovers, a more advanced challenge is to introduce stillness into their bedrooms.

 

This is something that not many people have ever heard of or ever tried. But stopping all movement in the middle of sex is magic! Because when you’re aroused, when you’re enjoying a sexual connection with your partner, when your naked body is pressed against theirs and your entire system is activated and turned-on, there is a world of sensations happening inside of you. And when you stop and feel, you can notice all of it!

 

When you slow down or even stop, you’re also much more relaxed. And in a relaxed body, sexual energy can travel more freely, creating a more expanded experience of erotic energy and orgasms. When you’re rushing, your body is contracted and the orgasms become very localized and constricted. But when you relax, that sexual energy can travel much further, creating pleasure that flows and ripples through your entire system.

 

So next time you’re making love, slow down and take your time.

 

Become really present with yourself first, with your own body and your own senses, and then also with your partner, enjoying your connection, touching each other slowly. It’s as if you were discovering each other’s body, stroking their skin with curiosity, exploring pleasure in all sorts of different ways and forms.

 

You can play with different types of touch, different levels of pressure, touching different areas that maybe you haven’t given a lot of attention before. Using props, using your breath, breathing consciously brings a whole new level of pleasure into sex. Give yourself a full permission to experiment, to explore and to fully delve into your sexuality and your sensuality.

 

And please let me know what your first reaction to slow sex is! Is this idea completely new to you or have you heard of it before? Are you sure that it would never work for you or are you curious and ready to try? I look forward to hearing from you!

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Even though I’ve been actively studying Tantra and sexuality for many years now, and even though I maintain an active connection with my body, my sensuality and my genitals, at times I still struggle with sex.

At times, I lose my libido and struggle to get aroused. Sometimes I don’t like my body and don’t feel sexy in my skin. And occasionally I don’t even want to be touched by my partner.

 

When this happens, I do two things.

 

Firstly, I honour my body and accept the fact that who I am is an ever-changing, flowing system that will not consistently perform in the same way. I also do my best to remain loving and compassionate with myself. We often tend to get critical and judge ourselves harshly for our perceived shortcomings. But when the body speaks, it’s always important to listen.

And secondly, I deepen my embodiment practice.

 

Why does it happen?

 

A loss of desire, arousal and libido can have a variety of causes. But usually, they’re strongly linked to our mindset and to the level of embodiment we’re experiencing in our bodies. When my libido disappears and when I don’t feel like connecting sexually with my partner, it usually means that I’m stuck in my head and that I allow my mind to override my physical experience.

My mind often whispers to me: “I’m too busy for this, I’m too tired, I don’t have the time, I just want to relax, I really need to be productive now and get stuff done…”. Women, if you know this voice, raise your hands!

 

What to do

 

When I make love despite this voice, sex becomes less pleasurable and I struggle to orgasm. So when I start to hear this voice, I know it’s time for some serious embodiment practice and for a renewed sensual connection with myself. There are 3 ways that allow me to create a much more embodied, pleasurable and deeply satisfying sexual experience, even when my head is trying to get in the way:

 

1/ Body scan

 

Feeling your own body is a very simple concept, yet such a challenge at the same time! We’re not used to paying a lot of attention to our physical experience, until the body demands some care by creating pain. We’re used to prioritizing the thinking mind over the feeling body and this gets us into trouble because both are valid and important.

So I like to sit down, close my eyes and deepen my breath. They say that the more you breathe, the more you feel and it’s true. As I pay attention to my fingers, hands, arms, shoulders, toes, feet, ankles, legs, etc., I slowly and surely immerse myself completely in my physical sensations. And it feels like bliss!

 

2/ Genital breathing

 

A lot of sexual issues and difficulties come down to a disconnection from our genitals. From a young age, we learn that the genitals are dirty, smelly or shameful. Most of the time, we ignore the ‘down there’ area and our erotic sensitivity starts to gradually reduce.

Bringing the breath into a body part helps us re-connect with it and feel more aliveness and sensation. Imagine that your genitals are your lungs and visualize your inhale flowing all the way down there. Allow your genital area to relax, feel an expansion, softening and opening. Then simply relax on the exhale.

Five minutes of genital breathing a day will create wonders for the sensitivity of your intimate region!

 

3/ Placement of awareness

 

While making love, we can sometimes experience pain or discomfort in our genitals. I find that placing our awareness in there during sex and making sure to keep the area relaxed and open, is a very helpful way to reduce the discomfort and intensify pleasure.

Whatever we place our attention on, grows and expands. Whatever we withdraw our attention from, contracts and becomes numb. When I make love, I pay a close attention to my entire body. But during penetration, a big portion of my awareness goes to my genitals. This little trick really allowed me to grow my pleasure potential!

 

Having more embodied sex means having more pleasure, feeling more connected to one’s body and to their partner. It also means healing past wounding, shame and conditioning placed upon us by the society and religion.

Great sex can heal a lot of frustration in our relationships. Embodied sex can heal, empower and free us from what is holding us back in the bedroom!

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And why not?! We all enjoy pleasure. In fact our primal instinct is to seek pleasure and avoid pain.

 

But how much pleasure exactly are we allowing in our lives?…

 

A week ago I started to consciously bring more pleasure into my life – I mean, what better way to beat the Coronavirus blues?… I’ve been taking long, luxurious baths with scented oils and Epsom salts, having that coffee break when I need it, while indulging in a piece of dark organic chocolate, listening to beautiful music when performing chores at home, enjoying a glass of my favourite wine at dinner time, having extra long self-pleasuring sessions as often as I can, meeting my friends (online) for long and meaningful conversations, preparing delicious meals, dancing, singing, reading, taking mindful breaks in the middle of a busy day… The list goes on!

 

This pleasure focus can be also very successfully used in your masturbation practice!

 

A lot of people get into a bit of a rut in their self-touch habits. They develop masturbation routines early on in life and then continue touching themselves in the same ways for many, many years. It seems that efficiency becomes the main goal here and once we discover the most effective strokes, we reach for them every time.

 

But masturbation can be much more than just a quick way to bring you to a climax. It can be a source of incredible delights and a powerful training tool to keep expanding your body’s erotic potential. It can be a way to heal you, to deeply nurture your body with blissful energy and even to have your mind blown on a regular basis…

 

If you are not quite certain where to begin your pleasure exploration, mindfulness is a great way to discover some new, delicious erogenous zones.

 

Take a moment to sit down in silence, close your eyes and notice the way your body is feeling. Our bodies speak to us all the time, they know exactly what we need. They keep whispering but we usually do not listen. See if you can hear that whisper… Don’t think about it, don’t try to figure it out. Simply FEEL your body and notice where it desires to be touched.

 

When you masturbate, apply the same mindfulness approach. You can also throw in a healthy pinch of curiosity. Take your time, don’t rush the experience. Explore your entire body. Look for pleasure sensations, look for the most sensitive, yummy spots. How much can you discover? What can you learn about your pleasure zones?

 

When I first started studying Masturbation Coaching, I was spending a lot of time on homework practices.

 

And I couldn’t believe how much I was learning about my own body – and that’s after many, many years of touching myself in the same boring ways previously!… One of the things I learned was that when I slowly drag my fingernails up my stomach, that sends shivers of pleasure through my spine… Wow, I had no idea!!!

 

How about you? How can YOU bring more pleasure into your Masturbation Month? If you’re a bit stuck for ideas, check out my Masturbation Coaching online course. It’s one of my most popular programs with thousands of people all over the world enrolled to date. And to celebrate this very special month, I’m offering the entire course at half price with coupon code SelfLove. Enrol now and begin your own Masturbation Journey!

 

It’s only 6 May and I’ve been having an amazing month so far!… How about you?… 

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Through a variety of harsh or rushed sexual experiences we usually develop a certain hardness (armouring) in our genitals.

 

Its function is to protect the delicate tissue of the skin from friction. This is achieved by numbing the body’s response to touch. This protective function, however, also limits our ability to feel pleasure. Have you ever heard anybody say that they cannot feel a lot or any pleasure while having sex? That’s because their body has armoured itself in the course of ongoing aggressive, fast or friction-driven sexual contact.

 

Fortunately, our body has also the ability to de-armour itself. This is done through a regular practice of being re-sensitized. The technique I am about to share with you helps with exactly this issue and can be used for any body part, however, I will concentrate here on the genitals. The technique is called ‘breathing into your genitals’ and is as simple as it sounds.

 

Don’t be deceived by its simplicity though because it’s also extremely powerful when used correctly!

 

This technique can be practiced anytime as nobody will be able to tell what you are doing. I particularly recommend doing the breathing in five-minute blocks a few times every day.

 

You can practice whenever you find yourself in a situation where you can safely give some of your attention to your breathing practice. I usually do mine in the car, while watching TV, reading a book, listening to a lecture, studying, meditating, etc. I find it a bit more tricky to practice while I’m moving – going for a walk, shopping, etc., however, do give it a go if you feel like it!…

 

How to perform the practice:

 

As you take a deep breath in, imagine that the air you’re inhaling is flowing all the way down to your genitals. And as you exhale, keep your awareness there – in your pussy or penis. As you continue this practice, make sure that your breath is long, deep and full. It should not feel like an effort though, more like a deep wave of air flowing through your body in a full but relaxed way.

 

With every breath allow your genitals to relax more and more, being “filled” with the air you are inhaling – like a balloon. Feel your entire genital area opening up more and more, like a beautiful flower. Feel your muscles and tissues softening and your intimate bits relaxing, gently caressed by the air you are breathing.

 

The essence of this technique is becoming fully aware of the sensitivity of your genital area, which will keep growing and expanding while you’re breathing deeply. 

 

The combination of deep breath, muscle relaxation and placement of your attention in your genitals is a powerful combo! The effects are usually felt pretty quickly.

 

I still remember the first day I tried this practice – I did this breathing practice 3 times in one day, approximately five minutes each time. A few hours later I had sex with my lover and I just could not believe what was happening to my body! The incredible pleasure of having him inside me was more intense than ever before… Plus I was so wet, I actually thought that he might have already ejaculated inside me. I actually asked him whether he did but it was my own juice flowing more abundantly than ever before.

 

So there you go – so simple yet so powerful! Please do give this practice a go and let me know how it worked for you. I look forward to hearing your stories of pleasure, sensuality and joy!

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I feel a little weird every time someone asks me about my age. Not because I’m worried about it or because it makes me uncomfortable. It doesn’t.

 

However, each time I answer this question, the reaction is one of shock and surprise. And it happens so often and without fail that I don’t even look out for that “No way, really??” look on their face. I just state my age and move on with the conversation.

 

But it does get me thinking…

 

How come so many other people my age look so much older than me? Why do I seem to effortlessly keep my youthful appearance, even though the date on my ID tells a very different story?

 

And yes, I do make an effort to eat healthy and exercise. But I’m far from ideal and often lack discipline in these areas. And, to be absolutely honest with you, I actually believe it’s something else…

 

As a Tantra practitioner, I regularly move sexual energy through my body.

 

I have now taught thousands of individuals about the amazing healing, energizing and rejuvenating qualities of our orgasmic charge. Your erotic charge can literally create a new life – a baby – when expelled out of a man’s body and connected with a woman’s sexual centre. And when that charge is consciously moved and expanded inside of our own bodies – it creates more life for ourselves.

 

And since, most of the time we experience arousal, we’re not actually planning to become parents, it just makes sense to me to use that potent energy to invigorate our own bodies.

 

But did you know that your orgasmic energy is much more powerful than that? On top of increasing your wellbeing, it can literally blow life into any desire, wish or goal that you have in your life. Your orgasms can charge your dreams and make them come true!

 

Isn’t that magical?…

 

Over the years, I’ve used my orgasms to manifest things like trips, money, lovers, a car, a community, more joy and better health among other things.

 

There is no limit to the creative power of our sexual energy and all it takes is willingness to try. Sex Magic is real magic. It involves entering a state of altered consciousness created by surrendering to states of high arousal. Once there, the mind can bliss out, while the body is flooded with amazing erotic pleasure. When the vision of your desired goal is then included in this experience, a powerful alchemical transformation can happen, allowing the goal to be activated, charged and released into the Universe on the wave of orgasm.

 

This is the most potent form of manifestation known to man

 

…because it combines our desire with nature’s ultimate creative force – sexual energy. And I teach all about that process in my online course Manifesting with Sex Magic.

 

The course is currently on special and is available at a 50% discount with coupon code MAGIC (only until tomorrow!).

 

So if you’re ready to infuse your body, mind and life with more amazing things that you desire and if you’d like to learn how to use a powerful Sex Magic ritual to achieve that, check out my online course. And make sure to let me know what you manifest with your newfound orgasmic power!

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