When I first heard of the G-spot and the G-spot orgasms, I was still a teenager and the whole concept was covered with a layer of mystery. I knew it was somewhere inside my vaginal canal and I even tried to look for it with my fingers but failed to locate it. My...read more
When I first heard of the G-spot and the G-spot orgasms, I was still a teenager and the whole concept was covered with a layer of mystery. I knew it was somewhere inside my vaginal canal and I even tried to look for it with my fingers but failed to locate it. My G-spot remained elusive (if it was even a real thing!) for many more years…
According to many people, the G-spot holds the key to woman’s vaginal orgasms.
Vaginal (internal) orgasms provide us ladies with a very different experience than the more common clitoral climax. The internal O feels more profound, more expansive, more grounding… It seems to flow like waves through our entire bodies, immersing us in a bliss-like state… which is in quite a contrast with the more external, explosive and sharp clitoral peaks.
The sad truth is that many, many women don’t know where their own G-spot is. Or how powerful its potential for pleasure is! Many other women are familiar with their G-spots but the area can be very de-sensitized due to years of rough sex. This means that a lot of ladies will struggle to stimulate that spot in a pleasurable way or they might even feel like there’s not a lot of sensation there. So if even women are confused about their G-spots, what chance of success do men have?
Where is the G-spot?
It’s not really a spot but more an area and it’s located on the upper wall of the vagina, close behind the vaginal entrance.
How to find it?
Insert a finger into the vaginal canal about two knuckles in. Press the pads of your fingers up towards her belly and start exploring. You’ll notice that the skin texture there is quite different than the rest of her vaginal canal. The vaginal walls are pretty smooth but the G-spot feels more like the roof of your mouth. The ridges will typically become even more pronounced when the woman is aroused.
How to stimulate the G-spot?
This is where all the fun begins… All women are different and like different things but here are a few techniques to start you off on this exploration adventure:
Massage the G-spot with your fingers in a circular motion. Vary speed and pressure. Keep asking for her feedback to figure out what kind of touch works best for her.
2/ Come-hither motion
Insert a finger, press it into the G-spot and slowly pull it out, allowing it to glide over the whole area. It should feel like as if you were dragging a coin off of the table.
Vary speed and pressure. Try two or even three fingers. Keep asking for feedback.
3/ Pressing in
Place your finger on the G-spot and push into it. Keep communicating with her to find the best level of pressure. After a few moment, move your finger to a different location (within the same area) and repeat. Keep repeating until you find all the most yummy spots.
Remember that even a tiny difference in the placement of your finger can make a huge difference to her pleasure!
There is a whole range of dildos and specifically shaped G-spot massagers out there. They can be a lot of fun to play with!
And if you’re on a budget, you can use a cucumber but make sure that it’s peeled and smooth. Also, ask your lady if she has a preference for a particular vegetable.
The good old missionary position isn’t typically great for stimulating the G-spot but there are other great options:
– modified missionary – the woman puts a few pillows under her butt and keeps her feet flat on the bed,
– woman on top – man is lying on his back, woman lowers herself onto his penis, BUT she needs to lean back, this way she can position herself pretty well for some G-spot action,
– reverse cowgirl – this is still woman on top but here she’s facing her lover’s feet instead of his head,
– from behind – not quite the doggy style because the woman lies down on her belly with her legs together while her lover enters her from behind.
Make sure to experiment with all these positions, looking for the best angle, pressure and speed. And make sure to be playful about the whole experience! Nothing kills the erotic fun more quickly than treating it like a chore.
This is an invitation to start exploring the mysterious G-spot and learning more about it.
The more familiar we are with our (and our partner’s) genital anatomy, the better we can navigate our way around it and the more pleasure we can give and receive.
So let’s start exploring!
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