How to Have Multiple Orgasms: The Ultimate Guide

How to Have Multiple Orgasms: The Ultimate Guide

So you’ve heard of multiple orgasms and now you’d like to start having them too. Maybe you’re feeling intrigued and curious – maybe even a little intimidated.

 

After all, multiple orgasms are usually made to sound like magical, unicorn-like experiences denied most everyday humans: as if they’re some mystical realm reserved only for tantric lovers, yogic practitioners, and people who are really into the Kamasutra.

 

But the truth is everybody can learn how to have multiple orgasms. If you have a body and you can experience arousal, then you’re capable of multiple orgasms too. Yes, even if you’re a man. Even if you’ve never even had a single orgasm before.

 

Because becoming multi-orgasmic is part of your sexual birthright. Learning how to have multiple orgasms is simply about recognising where you’re blocking your multi-orgasmic self, and where you’re resisting your natural capacity for many, many orgasms. So let’s start at the beginning…

 

 

What are Multiple Orgasms?

 

Multiple orgasms happen when a person reaches an orgasm more than once during a sexual experience. You can be multi-orgasmic all by yourself or with a partner. Both men and women can be multi-orgasmic, but multiple orgasms in men can be a little trickier because of the refractory period (more about that later). 

 

Multiple orgasms can happen in close proximity – just seconds apart. Or arousal can decline before it builds up again, taking you into another climax… and another one… and another one… and so on.

 

Despite the amazing pleasure and bliss promised by multiple orgasms, according to studies, less than 10% of women are having multiple orgasms. And there’s barely any data about men having multiple orgasms. (‘Cause we live in a culture that doesn’t really talk about these kinds of things).

 

But that doesn’t mean it’s not possible for you. Anyone can learn how to have multiple orgasms – you just need to follow the right approach.

 

What do Multiple Orgasms Feel Like?

 

How a multiple orgasms feels depends on the type of orgasm you have, and how close together they are. Some women describe multiple orgasms as one intense orgasm with softer waves of orgasmic pleasure straight after. Others describe having many orgasms in one sexual encounter that build in intensity. For men, multiple orgasms usually happen without ejaculation, because after ejaculation men enter the refractory period.

 

Once you start having multiple orgasms, you may also find yourself experiencing pleasure in new and unexpected ways. Whereas sexual arousal and pleasure are usually associated with genital touch, as your overall arousal builds you may find yourself able to reach orgasm from nipple touch, anal play or other under-explored areas of your body.

 

In this way, multiple orgasms can help to expand your overall orgasmic potential, and open you up to whole new ways of experiencing pleasure.

 

 

How Many Orgasms Can You Have?

 

The truth is there is no limit. Some multi-orgasmic women report having an average of 5 orgasms per session, but other women have reported going much higher than that. For men, it really depends on their ejaculation control and their ability to delay the refractory period.

 

Over the years, different studies have attempted to quantify orgasms and learn more about human orgasmic potential. But there’s still SO much science doesn’t know about human sexuality.

 

But there are a few factors that will affect how many orgasms you can have:

  • how much time you have for sex / masturbation
  • how connected you are to your own body and your sensitivity
  • how familiar you are with your erogenous zones and how well you can stimulate them / ask your partner to do that for you
  • the level of past sexual trauma still present in your body
  • any inhibitions, limiting beliefs, shame, guilt, and other blocks present in your system
  • your anatomy and libido.

 

 

Can Men Have Multiple Orgasms?

 

Absolutely yes! Men have an incredible potential for pleasure – it’s just not something that’s widely spoken about. Men have the same capacity to be multi-orgasmic as women – but they have to learn how to control ejaculation in order to overcome the refractory period.

 

The refractory what?

The Refractory period is the time your body needs to recover after each orgasm before you can become sexually aroused and reach climax again.

 

For men, this means that after ejaculating, they have a period of time where they can’t get an erection.

 

Many women also experience a refractory period after a climax that involves lots of clitoral stimulation: the clit becomes very sensitive, and there’s a period of time where you want a break from clitoral stimulation.

 

But women typically experience a much shorter refractory period than men.

 

 

Multiple Orgasms in Women

 

Women are naturally multi-orgasmic – something that we sadly we don’t talk about enough. Women are actually able to experience a whole array of delicious orgasms too, well beyond the conventional clitoral orgasms.

 

Women can have vaginal orgasms, G-spot orgasms, cervical orgasms, anal orgasms, breast orgasms – and much, much more. (Yes, the female body is AMAZING!)

 

And because women are capable of so many different types of orgasms, they’re usually able to become multi-orgasmic much more easily than men.

 

In fact, once women learn how to have orgasms beyond the conventional clitoral orgasm, they don’t experience a refractory period at all! Which means it’s often easier for women to have multiple orgasms in a shorter period of time than men.

 

Want to learn all about the different types of female orgasms – and how to have them? My Orgasmic Empowerment course will help you unlock your multi-orgasmic potential and open yourself to a whole new level of pleasure. Check it out here.

 

 

Multiple Orgasms in Men

 

Here’s the really exciting part though: men can orgasm without ejaculation! Yes – men can have more than one type of orgasm as well.

 

This is something that most modern men have never heard of. But tantric men have been practicing this skill for thousands of years.

 

Orgasm and ejaculation are in fact two separate phenomena – but they typically happen together for an untrained man.

 

Ejaculation is the pleasurable squirting of the semen, while orgasm is a release of arousal: of that delicious sexual energy that builds up to the point of climax. Orgasm feels like an intense surge of pleasure in your body and it usually precedes ejaculation – but the ejaculation doesn’t HAVE to happen.

 

And if ejaculation doesn’t happen, there’s no refractory period. Yay!

 

There are various techniques that allow men to separate ejaculation and orgasm. And for most men this process takes at least a few weeks of training. However, the men in my Tantric Mastery online course have been reporting full-body non-ejaculatory orgasms within the first week of training! Click here to discover exactly how to control ejaculation, say goodbye to the refractory period and learn how to have male multiple orgasms for men.

 

 

How to Achieve Multiple Orgasms?

 

It all starts with a really good awareness of your own body. When it comes to our sexuality, arousal and pleasure, we’re all different and unique. But here are the most important points to keep in mind:

 

 

1/ Know that you can

 

If you believe that you can orgasm more than once, then you’ll be more likely to actually do it. Check your mindset and make sure you’re not running any unhelpful ideas such as “I’m just not able to orgasm like that.” Or “having multiple orgasms is just for people who XYZ.”

 

Know that having multiple orgasms is possible for YOU too – and go into your sexual encounters with an attitude of when – not if. 

 

That doesn’t mean you put pressure or expectation on yourself though. (This is a journey, and it can take some time.) But trusting in yourself and your body’s capacity for pleasure is key to maintaining your curiosity while you continue with your orgasmic exploration.

 

 

2/ Take your time

 

Allow yourself plenty of time to build up your arousal energy during your sexual play and/or self pleasuring session. The more energy you build up, the more energy you’ll have for your next orgasm (and the next, and the next!)

 

That might mean slowing down – which also allows you to savour the experience more. It might mean taking more time for foreplay, and taking your time before you build up to the intensely pleasurable activities. 

 

Remember – it’s a journey, not a race! 

 

 

3/ Talk your way through

 

Partners who communicate regularly and openly about their desire, needs and wants in the bedroom report having more satisfying and more frequent orgasms. Communication is key!

 

Being able to communicate also helps you to follow point number 1 (taking your time). If you feel like you’re building up intensity too quickly, don’t be scared to ask your partner to slow down or ask for something different. 

 

The more you own and ask for what you want, the more you expand your orgasmic potential.

 

If you’re in a relationship and want to take your sex life to the next level together, Tantric Sex For Couples is the complete guide to help deepen the love, connection and pleasure in the bedroom. Click here to learn more.

 

 

4/ Relaaaaaaaaax

 

If you’re stressed, tense or tired, your body might not be up for multiple orgasms (or even 1 orgasm for that matter!). So make sure that you’re feeling calm and relaxed before you begin your multi-orgasmic session. 

 

A thriving, pleasurable and exciting sex life actually begins with taking care of yourself, knowing how to de-stress and how to feel relaxed, present and open to pleasure. 

 

 

5/ Map your erogenous zones

 

Being familiar with your erogenous zones is essential when it comes to giving yourself what you want – AND when asking for what you want from your partner. Knowing how, where and when to touch yourself are the skills you need to achieve multiple orgasms over and over again.

 

And how do you map your erogenous zones? By becoming an explorer!

 

Explore different parts of your body, and experiment with different kinds of touch too. This kind of curiosity can lead you to discovering new, orgasmic ways to touch your body.

 

And don’t forget that things change and feel different as your arousal builds too. One area might not feel much when you first start out, but once you’re feeling hot and turned on, suddenly it’s a pleasure wonderland!

 

(Want an easy guide to discover all your erogenous zones? Check my Tantric Master course for men or Orgasmic Empowerment for women).

 

 

6/ Bring in the toys!

 

Many of my clients find that sex toys greatly enhance their ability to orgasm and the ease with which they get there – so don’t be afraid to give it a go!

 

Toys that incorporate ALL your senses can help you expand your pleasure and build up even more sexual energy (which you’ll need to help you reach orgasm after orgasm). So things like scented massage oil, feathers, luxurious silks or bondage toys can be great for building the sensual experience needed for multiple orgasms.

 

For men, toys that help you incorporate prostate play, or that stimulate your genitals beyond just the head of your cock can help to expand your pleasure and also help you control ejaculation (cock rings are a good example).

 

And for women, toys that help you stimulate a variety of erogenous zones – from your clitoris to your cervix and everywhere in between – will also help you build your sexual energy to new orgasmic heights. 

 

 

7/ Use your breath and body

 

Deep breath and mindfulness can create wonders when it comes to arousal and pleasure, so keep checking in with your body. If you’re distracted and your breathing is constricted, your body will struggle to climb the arousal ladder. 

 

Slowing down your breath and moving sexual energy through your entire body is key for having multiple orgasms for both men and women. In fact, the breath is one of the most important tools of orgasmic, tantric experiences.

 

The more connected you are to your breath, the more able you are to move orgasmic energy around and through your body, and the easier it is to reach orgasmic, bliss filled states.

 

The Benefits of Being Multi-Orgasmic

 

Each orgasm brings the body a wealth of benefits. So it goes without saying that many O’s will just multiply the rewards. Here are most commonly quoted benefits of multiple orgasms:

 

  • deeper intimacy in the relationship
  • greater pleasure and satisfaction of both partners
  • lower stress levels
  • better health and wellbeing due to the pleasure hormones being regularly released in the body
  • better immunity
  • better sleep

 

 

Stop! Before you start cultivating your multi-orgasmic ability!…

 

It’s not just about the quantity, it’s also about quality! Multiple orgasms can sound amazing and exciting but not everybody needs them. If you’re perfectly satisfied with your sex life, even if you only climax once per session – that’s perfectly fine!

 

AKA don’t fix it if it ain’t broken!

 

It’s wonderful to always aspire to better experiences. But don’t let that pursuit stop you from enjoying what you already have. Because one really epic orgasm can be exactly what you need to feel satisfied!

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Whenever I’m asked what a full-body orgasm is, I’m a bit lost for words

 

And that’s because it’s extremely difficult to describe with language an experience that’s beyond anything that my mind could ever fully grasp. It’s a bit like trying to describe a new colour using just words – it’s just very, very hard 😉

 

But I guess the first thing here is to understand what an orgasm actually is because that will give you a gateway into its fuller potential in your body. So an orgasm is a release of energy, of a sexual energy. First we build up arousal and sexual charge and then eventually we get to a point where that charge is too intense to hold in the body, and the energy is released during an orgasm.

 

 

When we tense up our bodies in bed, that orgasmic release will typically happen externally

 

Men release their sexual charge out together with the semen during ejaculation. And women release it externally through a clitoral orgasm.

 

But! both men and women can learn to re-direct that orgasmic release inwards and upwards, which will lead to experiencing a full-body orgasm – an orgasm which feels expansive, profound and deeply blissful as it keeps flowing internally through your entire system.

 

It feels like every cell of your body is orgasming!

 

And instead of leaving you feeling drained and disconnected afterwards, this kind of expanded orgasms feel nurturing, energizing and deeply pleasurable.

 

It feels like a difference between a genital sneeze and a waterfall of erotic waves and ripples flowing through your entire system. So if you’re ready to upgrade your orgasms from sneezes to waterfalls, I’m going to tell you how to do just that!

 

1/ relax your body

Muscle tension causes energetic blockages in the body and stops the energy from flowing freely. So make sure to keep your body relaxed and open. Particularly your pelvic area should be free from any muscular tension.

 

2/ notice the sensations

Placement of your awareness is very important here. Where your attention goes, that’s where the energy flows.

If your attention is firmly held in your genitals, it’ll be hard for your energy to flow and expand. So keep noticing the sensations in your entire body, even the most subtle ones!

 

3/ breathe deeply

Your breath is a magical tool. Your breath is what actually makes the energy move. So keep your breathing slow, deep and relaxed. Allow your breath to travel all the way down to your pelvis.

 

Also, don’t hold the breath at any point. Keep the inhale flowing immediately after each exhale and each exhale immediately after each inhale, etc. Like an uninterrupted circle of breath.

 

4/ visualisation

The mind-body connection is powerful so use it to your advantage! Imagine pulling your energy upward through your body. Visualise it as a moving, expanding and circulating wave of light or colour. Use any particular visualisation that you find most helpful.

 

5/ sound

And finally sound. Sound is a powerful tool because the vibration of the sound moves energy. So open your mouth as you exhale and let out a sigh, a moan or any other sound that feels natural and delicious to you.

 

A lot of people shy away from making sounds during sex or masturbation but they’re just missing out on a very potent and powerful experience.

 

How about you – have you ever experienced full-body orgasms? How did it happen? And were you able to re-create the experience?

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So discovering slow sex was quite challenging at first since it questioned everything I knew about sex up to that point. But it also brought unexpected rewards and delights.

 

Slowing down and taking your time is a huge part of having a satisfying sex life. But most people are strongly conditioned for fast friction and chasing the orgasm. Would you like to learn how slowing down can revolutionize your sex life and create more pleasure and stronger intimacy?

 

I first heard of slow sex about 6 years ago. I was reading a book by Diana Richardson called “Slow sex” and at the time her ideas completely confused me and even scared me! Because after all, what was left in sex if you took away all the fast friction, all the excitement and all the animalistic passion? I couldn’t understand what slowing down was supposed to bring to the lovemaking.

 

As you can probably tell, my sex life back then was pretty mediocre.

 

And the sex itself was based more on ideas found in porn than in bedrooms of real, loving, intimate couples. It took me a while to learn that really mind-blowing sex isn’t just about friction and chasing that orgasm but more about a heart connection, about sensitivity and sensual touch, about profound pleasure, about breathing together and feeling the erotic energy in your body, enjoying the arousal building up, cherishing the togetherness, and about having a very special, magical, intimate time with your lover.

 

And it’s actually a bit sad when we reduce sex to just a chase towards orgasm. Because it is about so much more! And when we slow down, we can actually pay attention to other aspects of our lovemaking. We can open up our hearts to each other. We can awaken deep sensitivity within our bodies, using gentle, slow touch. We can create a meaningful container for our love which turns sex into a magical ritual of loving connection, pleasure and fun.

 

And for all the more daring lovers, a more advanced challenge is to introduce stillness into their bedrooms.

 

This is something that not many people have ever heard of or ever tried. But stopping all movement in the middle of sex is magic! Because when you’re aroused, when you’re enjoying a sexual connection with your partner, when your naked body is pressed against theirs and your entire system is activated and turned-on, there is a world of sensations happening inside of you. And when you stop and feel, you can notice all of it!

 

When you slow down or even stop, you’re also much more relaxed. And in a relaxed body, sexual energy can travel more freely, creating a more expanded experience of erotic energy and orgasms. When you’re rushing, your body is contracted and the orgasms become very localized and constricted. But when you relax, that sexual energy can travel much further, creating pleasure that flows and ripples through your entire system.

 

So next time you’re making love, slow down and take your time.

 

Become really present with yourself first, with your own body and your own senses, and then also with your partner, enjoying your connection, touching each other slowly. It’s as if you were discovering each other’s body, stroking their skin with curiosity, exploring pleasure in all sorts of different ways and forms.

 

You can play with different types of touch, different levels of pressure, touching different areas that maybe you haven’t given a lot of attention before. Using props, using your breath, breathing consciously brings a whole new level of pleasure into sex. Give yourself a full permission to experiment, to explore and to fully delve into your sexuality and your sensuality.

 

And please let me know what your first reaction to slow sex is! Is this idea completely new to you or have you heard of it before? Are you sure that it would never work for you or are you curious and ready to try? I look forward to hearing from you!

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Even though I’ve been actively studying Tantra and sexuality for many years now, and even though I maintain an active connection with my body, my sensuality and my genitals, at times I still struggle with sex.

At times, I lose my libido and struggle to get aroused. Sometimes I don’t like my body and don’t feel sexy in my skin. And occasionally I don’t even want to be touched by my partner.

 

When this happens, I do two things.

 

Firstly, I honour my body and accept the fact that who I am is an ever-changing, flowing system that will not consistently perform in the same way. I also do my best to remain loving and compassionate with myself. We often tend to get critical and judge ourselves harshly for our perceived shortcomings. But when the body speaks, it’s always important to listen.

And secondly, I deepen my embodiment practice.

 

Why does it happen?

 

A loss of desire, arousal and libido can have a variety of causes. But usually, they’re strongly linked to our mindset and to the level of embodiment we’re experiencing in our bodies. When my libido disappears and when I don’t feel like connecting sexually with my partner, it usually means that I’m stuck in my head and that I allow my mind to override my physical experience.

My mind often whispers to me: “I’m too busy for this, I’m too tired, I don’t have the time, I just want to relax, I really need to be productive now and get stuff done…”. Women, if you know this voice, raise your hands!

 

What to do

 

When I make love despite this voice, sex becomes less pleasurable and I struggle to orgasm. So when I start to hear this voice, I know it’s time for some serious embodiment practice and for a renewed sensual connection with myself. There are 3 ways that allow me to create a much more embodied, pleasurable and deeply satisfying sexual experience, even when my head is trying to get in the way:

 

1/ Body scan

 

Feeling your own body is a very simple concept, yet such a challenge at the same time! We’re not used to paying a lot of attention to our physical experience, until the body demands some care by creating pain. We’re used to prioritizing the thinking mind over the feeling body and this gets us into trouble because both are valid and important.

So I like to sit down, close my eyes and deepen my breath. They say that the more you breathe, the more you feel and it’s true. As I pay attention to my fingers, hands, arms, shoulders, toes, feet, ankles, legs, etc., I slowly and surely immerse myself completely in my physical sensations. And it feels like bliss!

 

2/ Genital breathing

 

A lot of sexual issues and difficulties come down to a disconnection from our genitals. From a young age, we learn that the genitals are dirty, smelly or shameful. Most of the time, we ignore the ‘down there’ area and our erotic sensitivity starts to gradually reduce.

Bringing the breath into a body part helps us re-connect with it and feel more aliveness and sensation. Imagine that your genitals are your lungs and visualize your inhale flowing all the way down there. Allow your genital area to relax, feel an expansion, softening and opening. Then simply relax on the exhale.

Five minutes of genital breathing a day will create wonders for the sensitivity of your intimate region!

 

3/ Placement of awareness

 

While making love, we can sometimes experience pain or discomfort in our genitals. I find that placing our awareness in there during sex and making sure to keep the area relaxed and open, is a very helpful way to reduce the discomfort and intensify pleasure.

Whatever we place our attention on, grows and expands. Whatever we withdraw our attention from, contracts and becomes numb. When I make love, I pay a close attention to my entire body. But during penetration, a big portion of my awareness goes to my genitals. This little trick really allowed me to grow my pleasure potential!

 

Having more embodied sex means having more pleasure, feeling more connected to one’s body and to their partner. It also means healing past wounding, shame and conditioning placed upon us by the society and religion.

Great sex can heal a lot of frustration in our relationships. Embodied sex can heal, empower and free us from what is holding us back in the bedroom!

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And why not?! We all enjoy pleasure. In fact our primal instinct is to seek pleasure and avoid pain.

 

But how much pleasure exactly are we allowing in our lives?…

 

A week ago I started to consciously bring more pleasure into my life – I mean, what better way to beat the Coronavirus blues?… I’ve been taking long, luxurious baths with scented oils and Epsom salts, having that coffee break when I need it, while indulging in a piece of dark organic chocolate, listening to beautiful music when performing chores at home, enjoying a glass of my favourite wine at dinner time, having extra long self-pleasuring sessions as often as I can, meeting my friends (online) for long and meaningful conversations, preparing delicious meals, dancing, singing, reading, taking mindful breaks in the middle of a busy day… The list goes on!

 

This pleasure focus can be also very successfully used in your masturbation practice!

 

A lot of people get into a bit of a rut in their self-touch habits. They develop masturbation routines early on in life and then continue touching themselves in the same ways for many, many years. It seems that efficiency becomes the main goal here and once we discover the most effective strokes, we reach for them every time.

 

But masturbation can be much more than just a quick way to bring you to a climax. It can be a source of incredible delights and a powerful training tool to keep expanding your body’s erotic potential. It can be a way to heal you, to deeply nurture your body with blissful energy and even to have your mind blown on a regular basis…

 

If you are not quite certain where to begin your pleasure exploration, mindfulness is a great way to discover some new, delicious erogenous zones.

 

Take a moment to sit down in silence, close your eyes and notice the way your body is feeling. Our bodies speak to us all the time, they know exactly what we need. They keep whispering but we usually do not listen. See if you can hear that whisper… Don’t think about it, don’t try to figure it out. Simply FEEL your body and notice where it desires to be touched.

 

When you masturbate, apply the same mindfulness approach. You can also throw in a healthy pinch of curiosity. Take your time, don’t rush the experience. Explore your entire body. Look for pleasure sensations, look for the most sensitive, yummy spots. How much can you discover? What can you learn about your pleasure zones?

 

When I first started studying Masturbation Coaching, I was spending a lot of time on homework practices.

 

And I couldn’t believe how much I was learning about my own body – and that’s after many, many years of touching myself in the same boring ways previously!… One of the things I learned was that when I slowly drag my fingernails up my stomach, that sends shivers of pleasure through my spine… Wow, I had no idea!!!

 

How about you? How can YOU bring more pleasure into your Masturbation Month? If you’re a bit stuck for ideas, check out my Masturbation Coaching online course. It’s one of my most popular programs with thousands of people all over the world enrolled to date. And to celebrate this very special month, I’m offering the entire course at half price with coupon code SelfLove. Enrol now and begin your own Masturbation Journey!

 

It’s only 6 May and I’ve been having an amazing month so far!… How about you?… 

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How to Experience Even More Pleasure

How to Experience Even More Pleasure

A long time ago, I stumbled upon a very interesting technique that proved to have an incredible effect on my body. The technique helps to re-sensitize any body part and works particularly well for the genital area. I have been sharing this technique with my clients and friends for years now and the feedback has been truly amazing.

 

Through a variety of harsh or rushed sexual experiences we usually develop a certain hardness (armouring) in our genitals.

 

Its function is to protect the delicate tissue of the skin from friction. This is achieved by numbing the body’s response to touch. This protective function, however, also limits our ability to feel pleasure. Have you ever heard anybody say that they cannot feel a lot or any pleasure while having sex? That’s because their body has armoured itself in the course of ongoing aggressive, fast or friction-driven sexual contact.

 

Fortunately, our body has also the ability to de-armour itself. This is done through a regular practice of being re-sensitized. The technique I am about to share with you helps with exactly this issue and can be used for any body part, however, I will concentrate here on the genitals. The technique is called ‘breathing into your genitals’ and is as simple as it sounds.

 

Don’t be deceived by its simplicity though because it’s also extremely powerful when used correctly!

 

This technique can be practiced anytime as nobody will be able to tell what you are doing. I particularly recommend doing the breathing in five-minute blocks a few times every day.

 

You can practice whenever you find yourself in a situation where you can safely give some of your attention to your breathing practice. I usually do mine in the car, while watching TV, reading a book, listening to a lecture, studying, meditating, etc. I find it a bit more tricky to practice while I’m moving – going for a walk, shopping, etc., however, do give it a go if you feel like it!…

 

How to perform the practice:

 

As you take a deep breath in, imagine that the air you’re inhaling is flowing all the way down to your genitals. And as you exhale, keep your awareness there – in your pussy or penis. As you continue this practice, make sure that your breath is long, deep and full. It should not feel like an effort though, more like a deep wave of air flowing through your body in a full but relaxed way.

 

With every breath allow your genitals to relax more and more, being “filled” with the air you are inhaling – like a balloon. Feel your entire genital area opening up more and more, like a beautiful flower. Feel your muscles and tissues softening and your intimate bits relaxing, gently caressed by the air you are breathing.

 

The essence of this technique is becoming fully aware of the sensitivity of your genital area, which will keep growing and expanding while you’re breathing deeply. 

 

The combination of deep breath, muscle relaxation and placement of your attention in your genitals is a powerful combo! The effects are usually felt pretty quickly.

 

I still remember the first day I tried this practice – I did this breathing practice 3 times in one day, approximately five minutes each time. A few hours later I had sex with my lover and I just could not believe what was happening to my body! The incredible pleasure of having him inside me was more intense than ever before… Plus I was so wet, I actually thought that he might have already ejaculated inside me. I actually asked him whether he did but it was my own juice flowing more abundantly than ever before.

 

So there you go – so simple yet so powerful! Please do give this practice a go and let me know how it worked for you. I look forward to hearing your stories of pleasure, sensuality and joy!

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