Crystal Wands and Cervical Orgasms

Crystal Wands and Cervical Orgasms

I got a really warm response to my recent post titled “Nobody is coming to save you”. It seems that my determination to stop the Covid slow-down in my own life resonated with a lot of other people! Quite a lot of us have had enough of the lethargy dragging us down due to the pandemic.

 

As part of my desire to reclaim my old, pre-Covid self, I decided to go back to my favourite sexual practices. And one of them playing with my rose quartz pleasure wand.

 

I originally got my wand years ago.

 

Back then I was still in the process of healing a lot of my old sexual trauma and wounding. I kept using tantric practices to re-sensitize my genitals and the rest of my body. But the point of using the wand was to specifically work on my cervix.

 

Cervix is located at the end of the vaginal canal and forms an entrance to the womb. Stimulating the cervix pleasurably can lead to a cervical orgasm which to me is an absolute holy grail of all female orgasms! Cervical orgasm feels like waves of incredibly deep pleasure spreading slowly and flowing through my entire system, vibrating in my cells, overtaking my entire body, taking my breath away…

 

But recently I started noticing a loss of sensation in my cervix.

 

It seems that I’ve neglected it over the last few months. Or maybe it’s been responding to a low level stress and anxiety in my body caused by the unusual events in the world?….

 

First two or three times using my wand again didn’t bring mind-blowing results but I knew better than to give up too quickly. I continued my practice and it truly paid off! The fourth session of self-pleasure with my crystal dildo brought me into a trance-like state of ecstatic bliss and cervical orgasm.

 

It felt so good to be back!

 

I felt connected, sensual, erotic, cherishing my cervix together with the rest of my sensitive body. When I finally pulled the wand out of my vagina, I felt joy, love and happiness blissfully flooding my entire system.

 

A lot of women don’t realize what their bodies are capable of. A lot have never heard of cervical orgasms! Most women experience their cervix as completely numb and hence unable to feel any pleasure. This is due to years of mechanical, disconnected sex where the head of the penis repeatedly hits the cervix painfully, leading to loss of sensitivity.

 

The good news is that any woman can heal herself and reclaim the full orgasmic potential of her cervix.

 

Crystal wand is a particularly powerful tool to do that as it can easily reach and massage the depths of the vaginal canal, while activating the numb nerve endings and bringing back that natural sense of aliveness and pleasure.

 

Is it time to get your own pleasure wand? Check out my favourite Rose Quartz Pleasure Wands available through a supplier I use and trust. And enjoy your own orgasmic journey!!!

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When I heard of vaginal de-armouring for the first time in my life, I was desperate. I had wanted to learn to orgasm during sex or at least to experience intercourse as pleasurable for a long time. But despite all my efforts, nothing was working and I felt stuck. Actually, I felt more than stuck, I felt broken and inadequate. Everybody else seemed to enjoy their eroticism but me.

I kept asking – why?! Why me? Why is this happening? Why can’t I be like others?

But nobody was answering so I just did my best to keep the hope up while doing more research and going to more workshops and events.

When I came across de-armouring, it changed my life. My initial session was profound. I was crying, screaming, shaking but above all, I was finally healing. I was releasing stuck emotions, past trauma and all the wounding accumulated in my vagina over many, many years. I was letting go of a thick layer of numbness and pain from my genital area in order to get to the deeper, more sensitive and erotic realm.

During that session, I also experienced my first ever full-body orgasm and it felt like a true revelation! I was high for the next 24hrs, finally able to connect to my orgasmic potential, finally seeing the light in the tunnel of my sexuality.

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PS. Here are more details of the Orgasmic Empowerment course for women and if you’re interested in the Yoni Elixir, you can purchase it here.

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Our sexual fantasies

On day 4, we talked about our sexual fantasies. The facilitator asked the entire group: “What do you fantasize about?” and one by one, the women started sharing and baring their deep, intimate secrets. At that stage I still held a degree of shame and embarrassment about my naughty little fantasy so I wasn’t keen to share. But as all women kept revealing the images and scenarios they created for pleasure, arousal and turn-on, my fascination and amazement was growing while the shame and guilt kept reducing.

 

I couldn’t believe the variety, colourfulness and detail of the images painted in front of my eyes. In the group of 30 women, I heard 30 very different stories. Some of them even turned me on! Some of them I stored in my memory for a later use.

 

My own lifelong fantasy

I thought about my own sexual fantasy, the one constant scenario that I always reached for when I wanted some extra turn-on. I formed it in my early childhood and it hasn’t really changed since then – the rape fantasy, extremely common among women raised in religious households. The sexual suppression present in such environments creates a very real torment in our heads – the body starts to desire sexual expression yet the society tells us that sex is wrong. The subconscious mind finds a way out by resorting to a rape scenario – imagining being forced to have sex takes away some of the guilt we feel about our “sinful” bodies.

 

In most cases of sexual fantasy, fetish or any kind of unconventional sexual desire, there’s a wound, a hurt that we experienced early in our lives and that needs healing. That wound is asking for attention, for a resolution and until we recognize and heal it, we will experience some degree of torment or guilt about our sexual desires.

 

How society conditions us

I have worked with clients who were tortured beyond belief by their sexual fantasies and preferences – by the desire to be dominated by a woman, to be humiliated, to kiss her feet, etc. The society tells us about a very linear way to experience arousal and if you don’t fall within the indicated norms, you become a pervert, a deviant. But most of us have some kind of desire that falls within the kink or fetish category and there’s nothing wrong with that. In many cases it’s the childhood wounding that is making its way into our sex lives. And the more we try to suppress these desires and to deny them expression, the more tormented we’ll feel.

 

Is it time to heal?

The first step to healing sexual shame and guilt is to recognize that at the base of all of your desires is a very healthy, beautiful thing – a desire to be acknowledged, cared for, appreciated and loved. At the core of your sexual fantasy is a need that is asking for an expression or healing. It might be tricky to unpack these desires ourselves so seeking help from an experienced coach or therapist can be very helpful.

 

Get in touch with me to enquire about my sessions and coaching packages. I’m available for sessions worldwide through Zoom/Skype or phone.

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Relationship with my anus

Back during my younger years, I had had a few experiences of anal sex, however, they were all very painful and uncomfortable.
My ex-partners made no attempt to relax my anal area and would simply force their erect penis into my anus, mostly without using any lubrication.
This kept creating more and more tension, trauma and pain in my anus, inhibiting even deeper my ability to enjoy anal touch.
Some years later, when I was doing my sexological training, the anal module was challenging to me but I did perform all the activities and assignments that included bodywork on myself and others.
This helped a great deal in re-creating a pleasure connection with my anus and in healing it and re-claiming it as a valid, highly sensitive and even pleasurable to touch body part.
However, once the training was over, I pretty much left my anus alone.
I must admit that I have a strong preference for stroking my breasts and vulva over playing with my ‘back door’.

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Knocking on the back door

However, when I met Darren, he changed that and forced me to look again at the relationship I had with my anus.
He found anal sex highly arousing and we engaged in it on a regular basis.
As anybody who’s had any experiences with anal sex is aware, it requires a high level of relaxation, otherwise things can become painful.
My lover was very skilled at relaxing me and my anus but I still needed to employ 100% of my concentration in order to remain in my body and in my pleasure.
The moment I would allow my attention to wander and when I would go into my head, I often panicked and clenched my anal sphincters.
On a few occasions, I pushed my lover away in a moment of tension, anxiety and fear.

 

Anal trauma

One day, right after lovemaking, I confessed to him that within a few moments of the first anal thrust, I always felt a cold wave rushing through my body.
It felt like as if my body had a fever, like a wave of cold sweat – very unpleasant and chilling.
He looked at me concerned and said “it’s trauma”.
That realization was extremely powerful to me.
I can analyse others in a heartbeat and recommend the best course of action for a variety of sexual difficulties and challenges.
However, I hadn’t been able to diagnose myself.
He was right, my body still held a memory of trauma caused by all the inexperienced and insensitive lovers from my past.
My body was still reacting with fear, trying to protect itself from anal touch.

 

Healing

Once the trauma is acknowledged, it can be healed.
Once I understood what was happening to my body, I had never felt that cold sweat again.
Since then, I’ve been giving my body and my anus a lot of compassion and patience – healing takes time!
But being a victim of sexual trauma myself, I have a very deep and personal understanding of what my clients struggle with.
When fear and tension arise, I slow down and breathe.
I give my body time to calm down and relax, I assure my body that it’s safe and respected.
Whenever pain appears, we stop all movement.
Slowly, I’m re-writing my conditioning and re-wiring my system.
I’m teaching my body to associate touch with pleasure and sensuality instead of pain and trauma.
This is usually a long process that cannot be rushed.
But I have both time and a very patient partner.

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