Crystal Wands and Cervical Orgasms

Crystal Wands and Cervical Orgasms

I got a really warm response to my recent post titled “Nobody is coming to save you”. It seems that my determination to stop the Covid slow-down in my own life resonated with a lot of other people! Quite a lot of us have had enough of the lethargy dragging us down due to the pandemic.

 

As part of my desire to reclaim my old, pre-Covid self, I decided to go back to my favourite sexual practices. And one of them playing with my rose quartz pleasure wand.

 

I originally got my wand years ago.

 

Back then I was still in the process of healing a lot of my old sexual trauma and wounding. I kept using tantric practices to re-sensitize my genitals and the rest of my body. But the point of using the wand was to specifically work on my cervix.

 

Cervix is located at the end of the vaginal canal and forms an entrance to the womb. Stimulating the cervix pleasurably can lead to a cervical orgasm which to me is an absolute holy grail of all female orgasms! Cervical orgasm feels like waves of incredibly deep pleasure spreading slowly and flowing through my entire system, vibrating in my cells, overtaking my entire body, taking my breath away…

 

But recently I started noticing a loss of sensation in my cervix.

 

It seems that I’ve neglected it over the last few months. Or maybe it’s been responding to a low level stress and anxiety in my body caused by the unusual events in the world?….

 

First two or three times using my wand again didn’t bring mind-blowing results but I knew better than to give up too quickly. I continued my practice and it truly paid off! The fourth session of self-pleasure with my crystal dildo brought me into a trance-like state of ecstatic bliss and cervical orgasm.

 

It felt so good to be back!

 

I felt connected, sensual, erotic, cherishing my cervix together with the rest of my sensitive body. When I finally pulled the wand out of my vagina, I felt joy, love and happiness blissfully flooding my entire system.

 

A lot of women don’t realize what their bodies are capable of. A lot have never heard of cervical orgasms! Most women experience their cervix as completely numb and hence unable to feel any pleasure. This is due to years of mechanical, disconnected sex where the head of the penis repeatedly hits the cervix painfully, leading to loss of sensitivity.

 

The good news is that any woman can heal herself and reclaim the full orgasmic potential of her cervix.

 

Crystal wand is a particularly powerful tool to do that as it can easily reach and massage the depths of the vaginal canal, while activating the numb nerve endings and bringing back that natural sense of aliveness and pleasure.

 

Is it time to get your own pleasure wand? Check out my favourite Rose Quartz Pleasure Wands available through a supplier I use and trust. And enjoy your own orgasmic journey!!!

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Why The World Needs Tantra

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Claiming Your Right to Pleasure

Claiming Your Right to Pleasure

I don’t think there’s ever a bad time to claim your right to pleasure. BUT!… if there’s ever a REALLY good time for it, it’s now. Whether you’re currently stuck at home due to the coronavirus or not, whether you’re alone, with your beloved or the entire family, pleasure is a great antidote to fear, worry, anxiety and a range of other heavy emotions.

 

Pleasure is healthy, it’s natural and very uplifting!

 

However, we don’t usually realise just how much the way we experience pleasure is linked to our childhood years. It’s usually during those early years of our lives that we first learn how to allow pleasure into our experience and how much pleasure we actually deserve.

 

If a child is allowed to play, care-free and joyous, free from premature responsibilities or grief, they’ll keep expanding their pleasure potential, allowing the body to feel more pleasure throughout their entire system. However, if a child grows up in a stressful environment, with angry parents, alcohol abuse, tension or sadness in the family, prematurely taking on responsibility to take care of others emotionally, their pleasure potential and its expression will be stifled.

 

During early years on my tantric path, I attended different Tantra and sexuality events and 1on1 sessions. And I realised that my own pleasure potential was restricted by religious guilt and shame, and that I was suffocating my own body energetically.

 

I was suffocating my own body energetically.

 

Being guided by experienced practitioners and therapists was life-changing, as I kept witnessing my own body transform and heal. Each time I was coming back home feeling more alive, more electric and more blissful.

 

The more I was growing the relationship with my body, the more pleasure I was experiencing. The more pleasure I was allowing into my body, the more my sensitivity was growing. And the more sensitive I was becoming, the more ecstatic my sexual experiences were.

 

As my gift to anyone who’d love to explore their relationship to pleasure in these weird, challenging times, I’m offering my online course – Masturbation Coaching – at 50% off.

 

It’s a powerful journey of self-touch, into sexual activation and bliss.

 

Click here to access the course and make sure to use code LOVE at checkout to claim the discount.

You can enrol and do the entire course from the safety of your home!

Enjoy your pleasure!!!

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Why The World Needs Tantra

Why The World Needs Tantra

I have a dream…

 

It may be uncommon and strongly influenced by my professional background and my personal history but… hear me out!

 

I dream of a world where sexuality is revered and celebrated, where pleasure is cherished, where body is honoured and deeply respected. I hope to see young people guided by their families into the world of sacred sexual unions, creating deep, intimate relationships with others, giving and receiving pleasure in a loving, conscious way.

 

Lack of sexual satisfaction in modern world is a real problem.

 

Sexuality has been repressed so strongly over the last few hundred years that this subject has become taboo. Even parents barely talk to their children about it, not that they actually know much since they have never been properly advised either.

 

We take our first steps into the world of sexuality based on the guidance of porn and movies that show sex as a quick meeting of genitals, full of excitement and friction. These fast, heated encounters often lead to struggle to orgasm, premature ejaculation and sexual frustration. However, we convince ourselves that we like it that way since we all want to be great lovers. But deep inside we feel empty and disappointed…

 

For so many people the teachings of Tantra feel like coming home.

 

Every time I complete a session with a client or when I run a tantric workshop, I see joy and excitement shining in people’s eyes. The joy is sometimes bittersweet as they realize how much they’ve been missing out on so far. But tantric practices always bring us to a place of amazement, gratitude and peace – like we’re finally getting to understand our true nature when it comes to our eroticism.

 

I completely sympathize with these reactions because I can still remember years of sexual reppression, dissatisfaction and pain in my own life – always thinking that there was something wrong with me but having no idea how to fix it. My ex partners never wanted to talk about sex and I didn’t know back then how to have that conversation either. So we kept going for years – frustrated and sexually empty.

 

Within just a few months of practicing Tantra, I developed a deep connection to my own body and pleasure (and particularly my pussy which is now extremely orgasmic!). I also gained a better understanding why sex never felt that good before. After asking myself for years ‘what am I doing wrong?’, I finally had my ‘aha!’ moment and was able to start changing all the toxic conditioning and limiting beliefs that I had carried with me for a very long time…

 

Society gives us all the wrong messages about sex – it’s shameful, it’s wrong.

 

So we try (often subconsciously) to get done with it as quickly as we can, especially when we’re teenagers. This early conditioning teaches our bodies to tense up in order to get to the orgasm/ejaculation bit as quickly as possible. And the whole thing ends up being a rushed, disconnected, shallow experience for both men and women.

 

But sex is not shameful or bad. Quite the opposite – it’s beautiful and sacred! It’s a source of all life and creation, it’s a source of our life force, our pleasure and a wonderful way to connect with others on a deep, intimate level.

 

So let’s change the way we educate our children about their bodies and erotic desires.

 

Instead of getting tense and embarrassed about sex, let’s talk to them about touch, intimacy and masturbation in an open, accepting way. These are all very natural parts of life and by denying them, we’re denying our biology and human nature.

 

It’s obviously essential to be aware of a need for protection and safe sex practices. However, once that awareness is there, sexuality should be enjoyed, explored and treasured as a divine gift to every single human being. And with tantric practices, it’s much easier to create deep, intimate relationships with others and to give sexuality back its sacred status.

 

And if you’re not sure how to begin, check out my Tantra for Beginners course for an easy, to-the-point and completely free information about Tantra!

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The Mask I Wear is One

The Mask I Wear is One

I was recently listening to one of my all-time favourite songs of Sting – “Shape of My Heart” – if you don’t know it, put it on now! And if you do know it, put it on anyway 😊

 

In the song, he sings:
“I’m not a man of too many faces,
The mask I wear is one.”

 

This verse really stopped me in my tracks. I love how much vulnerability he put into these few words. Simple truth, yet so disturbing… He only shows one face to the world… yet it is masked.

 

Uncovering your mask

 

It brings to mind an exercise I did some time ago. It involved a pen and an A4 piece of paper. On the paper, I drew a mask – an empty outline of a human face. Then I cut it out so it looked like a real mask.

 

On the outer side of the mask – the side facing the world – I wrote all the words that described the face that I was showing the world – ‘confident’, ‘happy’, ‘outgoing’, ‘relaxed’, ‘in control’, ‘smart’, ‘professional’, ‘courageous’, ‘funny’,…

 

On the inner side of the mask – the side facing my face – I wrote everything that I was hiding behind the mask: ‘vulnerability’, ‘fear’, ‘self-doubt’, ‘sadness’, ‘loneliness’, ‘feeling inadequate’, ‘feeling not enough’, ‘anxiety’,…

 

New insights

 

Performing this exercise was deeply insightful. It made me a little sad but also a little more open to the idea of taking off the mask. After all, why do I actually need to hide the real, authentic me?… Why can’t I carry out in the open these deeply hidden gems of my human nature?…

Tell me, what would YOU write on the inside of your mask?
What are YOU anxiously hiding from the world?

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My Precious Insecurities

My Precious Insecurities

Recently, I had a very powerful conversation with a friend. He let me talk about all the most vulnerable, raw and honest parts of myself. At times, he offered a few words of insight or a clarifying question. Other than that, he just listened to me share about my insecurities, fears, anxieties, hopes, desires and more. At the end of that conversation I cried. I cried because I clearly saw how much shame I was still experiencing around who I was. And at the end of that sharing, I was finally able to embrace lovingly all the dark, scared, sore, lonely and human parts of myself…

 

You see… I had done a lot of hiding in my life.

 

I spent my childhood trying to hide how scared I was most of the time. I spent my teenage years trying to hide that I was awkward and shy. I spent my university years trying to hide that I wasn’t a party girl. I spent many of my relationships hiding that I didn’t know anything about sex. And I spent most of my adult years hiding that I was a nerdy introvert, that I used to have serious anxiety attacks about money and that sometimes I felt very lonely.

 

A lot of these things made me feel like a loser so I kept pretending to be an outgoing, social, happy girl. Whenever I shared accommodation in my 20s, I always made plans to go out at weekends – not because I always wanted to be out but mostly because the thought of having to tell someone on Monday morning that I hadn’t done anything fun was unbearable.

 

The journey of slowly reclaiming and learning to accept and love myself – just as I am – has been long.

 

Thanks to tantric philosophy, I slowly began digging out my authentic self from underneath a huge pile of pretence, act and masks. It took a while to actually find the real me because I’d been hiding her so well for so many years.

 

At times, I wondered who Helena actually was… And whether I would ever find out.

 

These days, I don’t hide anymore. I have made a huge progress on the path of self-discovery, self-acceptance and ultimately – self-love. I perceive all of my experiences as precious, beautiful and natural. And do you know why? Because they’re all human. And because I’m a human. And because as a human being, I’m meant to feel these things.

 

Anger? Bring it on! Fear? I can handle it. Frustration? I’ll take it. Anxiety? Uhmmm, sure!

 

I don’t dwell in these energies but I don’t reject them either. If they come, I welcome them without judgement, I experience them with curiosity and I allow them to pass. In my sessions, I have witnessed a lot of people fighting their human experiences, trying to get over them quickly and ban them from their lives.

 

But you can’t ban a part of yourself.

 

Because these experiences that we dread, worry about and regret – they’re here to stay. So you might as well accept and welcome them. That’s exactly what I am doing and it’s working great for me! After so many years of hiding and denial, I’m actually truly fascinated by my human experience – with all of its rawness, fragility and depth. Sometimes my anger gets the better of me, sometimes I struggle and sometimes I fall. But that’s ok as well, it’s just a part of this beautiful human ride.

 

Because after all, I AM HUMAN. And that’s ok.

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5 Steps to Deepen Your Orgasms with a Crystal Dildo

5 Steps to Deepen Your Orgasms with a Crystal Dildo

When I first heard of crystal dildos, I was intrigued but also apprehensive. The idea of putting stone objects in my vagina was so foreign to me at that stage, that I had no idea what to make of it. But the promises of cervical orgasms and sexual healing were too tempting for me to pass on that opportunity.

 

Fast forward 5 years and now I have not only used crystal wands – I am a proud owner of a lovely collection of wands and eggs and I’ve had amazing results to support this practice! Within a few weeks of committed practice, I awakened my vaginal canal to the point where I started to experience amazing G-spot orgasms. I re-sensitized and activated my cervix, allowing me to feel profound pleasure and to reach cervical orgasms. I also created a deep awareness of my entire genital area, helping me to sense and enjoy pleasure in new and even surprising ways.

 

If all that sounds intriguing, I do invite you to consider if a crystal wand practice is something you might bring into your bedroom.

 

Watch my video to learn if a crystal dildo is right for you!

 

 

PS. If you’re keen to get your own Black Obsidian Wand, make sure to visit GoddessWands.com. And use the coupon code ‘HELENA’ to claim your 15% discount on any item available in the store! I’m looking forward to hearing about your experiences with crystal wands 🙂 xxx

 

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I’ve been using crystal wands and vaginal eggs for a number of years now and I get a lot of questions about them from my friends and clients. A lot of women wonder what these crystals can do for them, whether they can help them in any way and whether they’re safe to use. Which is why I decided to give you a sneak peek into my bedroom practice so that you can decide for yourself whether a crystal dildo might be for you!

I recently added a new crystal toy to my naughty drawer which I’m extremely excited about. And this is something I really wanted to share with you because I have never played with black obsidian before. I have mostly used rose quartz, jade and tachyon but never black obsidian. And this is significant because different types of crystals have very different properties which is the first things you need to pay attention to when choosing a pleasure wand.

I felt really attracted to this stone because it clears unwanted energies, supports sexual healing, provides protection and helps you release anything that no longer serves you. And that is EXACTLY what a lot of women need in our society – releasing years of shame, trauma, pain and abuse from their vaginas.

I personally had experienced a lot pain during intercourse, I experienced sexual abuse and even rape in my life. And even though I’ve healed a lot of that over the years, I know that any woman can always go deeper into her healing and into reclaiming her full sexual potential and pleasure power! So let me tell you what you can do with this gorgeous wand!

 

Step 1 – Breathe and ground

I always start my self-pleasuring practice with deep, abdominal breaths. This grounds me in my body and gets me out of my head. It helps me to feel embodied and connected to my senses. I like to also gently stroke my skin all over, to bring that sense of aliveness and vibrancy into my entire system.

 

Step 2 – Yoni connection

Next I connect to my genital area. I usually do that by placing one hand on top of my vulva. It feels like an invitation. I’m not going inside just yet. I’m just asking my intimate parts whether it’s ok to enter, whether my body is happy to play sexually. While I hold my vulva, I keep breathing deeply, relaxing my body and creating a sense of safety which is much needed in any healing practice.

 

Step 3 – Yoni strokes

Next I start caressing my vulva, just externally at this stage. I like to use a high quality lubricant and I play with different strokes, to activate my sex centre and open up my body to pleasure and arousal.

 

Step 4 – The crystal wand

At this stage, I’m ready and open, my body feels relaxed and prepared to accept the internal touch. This is when I lubricate the wand and insert it into my vagina, really slowly and gently. It’s not about pushing the wand in, it’s about my body accepting the dildo and sort of pulling it inside.

I really encourage you to try this! Simply place the wand at the entrance of your vagina and breathe. Allow yourself to fully feel the cold touch of the stone. As you breathe, allow your genital area to relax completely, and see what happens! I usually experience a sort of heat and desire, like my vagina is pulling the dildo in. And it feels delicious!

Once the wand is in, you have a few options: you can just hold it inside, breathe and notice the sensations. Or if you’re struggling to feel anything, you can gently move or tap the wand to create a bit of movement. I like to gently tap the end of the wand, which gives me a bit of friction and much more sensation in my vaginal canal. And you can also add external stroking of your vulva and your clitoris.

I usually like to play with all of these options and it feels truly amazing. You should feel arousal, pleasure and deep awareness of your entire genital area. When I do this, my entire vaginal canal feels alive, open, relaxed and activated. There truly is magic in using a wand because it activates nerve endings and muscles that you didn’t even know existed. It feels like there’s a wealth of pleasure sensations and aliveness in there. All the way in, not just near the entrance but all the way up to the cervix.

And this is really powerful because a lot of women experience a lot of numbness in their vaginas. After years of using vibrators or experiencing fast, hard thrusting by their partners, they develop numbness or even discomfort. This is why so few women orgasm during intercourse.

 

Step 5 – Integration

During this practice, you can choose to orgasm or not. But in either case, it’s very important to finish with a few minutes of integration. That means lying on your back, fully relaxed, breathing in a conscious, slow way. This gives the body a chance to integrate all these new sensations and pleasure and to re-train the nervous system in order to help your vagina feel much more in the future.

 

So my verdict for my new black obsidian pleasure wand is both thumbs up! And if you’d like to get your own, please do proper research and seek recommendation. It’s very important to buy from a reliable supplier. I got my wand from Goddess Wands at goddesswands.com. Before filming this video, I actually had a chat with the owner of Goddess Wands and she graciously granted all my viewers a discount on the wands – the coupon code is ‘HELENA’.

Another reason why I felt good choosing this online store is that when you order your wand, Goddess Wands donate $5 from each sold wand to Little Warriors, a Canadian charity that helps kids heal from sexual abuse and educates adults and caregivers to prevent it. So this gorgeous crystal will not only make your vagina feel great, it will contribute to a much needed change in the world!

 

If you feel like your pussy is in a need of some healing and deeper sensitivity, get your own black obsidian pleasure wand and let me know in the comments how you go with it. Or maybe you’ve already played with one before in which case I’d love to hear about your experience!

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