Powerful Story Behind my New Tattoo

Powerful Story Behind my New Tattoo

I recently announced on social media that I got a new tattoo. It says “I trust” and there’s a bit of a pretty decorative sort of theme going around it.


I told you guys that there was a powerful story behind this tattoo and I decided to share it in a video.


When I put ink on my body, I believe that things that I tattoo should be quite personal, meaningful and important. This is my second tattoo, I have already got a tattoo of chakras on my back and I treasure and love that tattoo.


So when I decided that I wanted to tattoo something on my body again, I knew that it had to be something really, really important. And the words “I trust” actually feel that way to me. And let me just tell you a little bit of a story here so that you understand why this is so important…



I grew up in a poor country, in Poland. I was born in Poland and I grew up in a poor family. I grew up with strong messages of lack and scarcity. The air in our household was pretty much soaked through with the energy of lack and not having enough.


So this is something I was absorbing from a very young age, from pretty much being a toddler. All these worries that my parents had, I was in a way a recipient of that. I went into adulthood with the same worries about money and finances and this is something that had haunted me for so many years.


And if you haven’t experienced that, you are so incredibly lucky.


Because a sense of fear and anxiety to the point of having panic attacks, that is such a heavy burden to carry in your life on a daily basis for so many years, that it’s just unbelievable! It’s hard to explain.


So a few years ago I decided to finally shift that, to finally change that because it’s so hard to try to create something for yourself (and I always have been ambitious, I always wanted to have an amazing life, glorious life and have adventures and travel the world and be someone etc.) while that scarcity mentality is pulling you down in terms of your dreams.


And so very consciously and purposefully I stepped on a path of personal growth towards opening myself to receiving a lot of money, abundance of joy, travel, adventure, love, community, friendships and all these things that felt so scarce in my life up to that point. And one message that kept coming up in all of these teachings that I was absorbing from these different teachers, was that you need to trust the Universe, that the Universe has got your back and that all the forces of the Universe want to take care of you.


And that there is the most glorious plan that you can follow if you only stop resisting.


However, I kept forgetting about that support that I could get from the entire Universe. And I just kept going into my head and into my human mind around how I need to make things happen, how I need to hustle and worry, and stress, and effort to make things happen for myself. And for many years, I did that and I was just exhausted! I was called a workaholic quite a number of times in my life and I’m not terribly proud of that but that’s just the reality I was creating for myself.


And I just kept forgetting that I just need to trust and that from the place of trust everything becomes easier, things just flow, the right people show up, the right circumstances come together, the right projects come effortlessly… And so when I trust, things flow with ease, grace, clarity, with joy.


But then I would forget about that again and go into my mind, into that place of fear and anxiety, and worry, and hustling.


In my head, getting that message tattooed on my body would be a bit of a ritual or like a rite of passage where I would in this symbolic way shift into that new place of living my life and understanding my connection with the divine and the Universe.


And that’s kind of what happened! Since I got the tattoo, I’ve been experiencing such a deep sense of joy and peace… It creates such exquisite peace and inner calm when you realize you don’t have to figure it all out yourself, you can just trust and just follow that glorious path that the whole Universe created for you. And you just need to feel good and enjoy yourself, and be grateful for this beautiful life experience. That’s really all we need to do.


That took away such heavy burden of responsibility and ambition. Because I was just driving myself crazy, after all – how long can you sustain it for! It’s a little bit like I keep forgetting that I’m not just a human and that I don’t have just the human resources available to me. I have the whole Universe.


And that might not make a lot of sense to you if you’re not a spiritual person.


I am a deeply spiritual person and that’s just how I choose to live my life. I have absolutely no judgment about people and how they choose different paths for themselves but this is what works for me – that spiritual path where I see the whole Universe as the extension of me. And as a source of amazing love, support, abundance of anything I ever want… That’s just what works for me.


So whenever I forget that I am not just a human, that I am more than a human, then that’s when I struggle. And that’s when I find myself in a place of fear, anxiety and worry. And as soon as I remember to trust, things shift powerfully and I feel amazing every day, in every moment of my day. And amazing things start flowing to me in the way that is useful, beautiful, peaceful, happy and joyous.


I hope that this inspires you and that you get value from this post! Please leave me a comment to tell me what your approach to life is on that grander scale. And what you thought of everything I shared in this post/video.

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Today’s video is a bit different because I decided to invite you to my bedroom and to answer some of the more personal questions that you guys keep asking me in the comments under my videos. And this is because something quite exciting has been happening over the last few months: my YouTube channel started to really take off and over the last few months I gained a lot of new subscribers.


So thank you so much for watching my videos, for subscribing to my channel, for liking and for commenting. I already feel like I’ve been connecting with some of you on a more personal level in the comments because I really love to read them and respond to them. So thank you so much and you guys know who you are!



I feel like now is the time to actually introduce myself properly and to address all those things that so many of you have been curious about when it comes to me personally. Because I love answering all those questions about sex and intimacy, and Tantra. But I want to also give you a more of a personal perspective of who I am as as a woman.


So that’s what this video is about!


And I think I’m going to call it ‘Sex with Helena’ since we are in my bed, in my bedroom right now. Tell me if you like that name or if you have other suggestions. I think this is going to be a really, really cool thing to do. Let me know what you think some more personal talks with me should be called. Or maybe you like ‘Sex with Helena’. Or maybe you feel like something else will be more appropriate.




This is a question I keep getting all the time. And I guess this is because of my accent, because most of you can tell I’m not a native English speaker and I was not born in an English-speaking country. I was born in Poland and I spent there a big chunk of my life. I was raised in Poland so Polish is my native language.


But then I moved to Ireland and I lived in Ireland for four and a half years. And I loved my time there! If you get a chance to go to Ireland, you definitely should! It’s a beautiful, magical place!


And then in 2009 I moved to Australia. First, I lived in Melbourne for eight and a half years, then I moved to Byron Bay for a while, then I was in Sydney for a year and now I am based on the beautiful, gorgeous Gold Coast.


People usually think I’m French or that I’m from South America. But I am actually born and raised in Poland and currently living in Australia.




Another big, big question I get from many of you is: ‘Are you single?’. This is obviously a tricky question because things change in my life, so all depends on when you’re reading this.


Yes, I’m currently single. I am dating, though, and hoping that my relationship status will change. But currently single.




Another thing that a lot of people want to know is how I became a sex therapist. And I can understand the curiosity. It’s not a usual career path, it’s not usually something that we decide as a child. I wasn’t five years old telling my mom that I was going to be a sexologist. That didn’t happen!


But it was my life’s path that kind of took me there. I actually studied and trained as an accountant so I am a certified accountant. But I had an accident in my sex life. And I had quite a bit of sexual trauma from being with partners who weren’t as sensitive to my sexual needs as I ideally would want them to. So all of that led me to a sexual crisis where eventually I was in so much pain because of sex that I had to be taken to the emergency room.


And at that point, when I was coming back from the hospital, I realized that I could never have sex the same way again. And I started to (just for myself), learn and explore the area of great sex and Tantra, and sexual healing.


It was such an amazing awakening for me to learn about all of these things and to actually experience the power of tantric practices and sexual exercises on my own body and my own orgasmic ability, that when I became multi-orgasmic and full-body orgasmic and I started to experience these profound ecstatic erotic states, I decided that I wanted to help others who were in a similar situation and others who wanted to expand and grow their own sexual potential.


So that was a bit of a path where I became a bit of a “wounded healer”. Because I experienced such profound crisis when it comes to my own sexuality that then I had to go on a journey of healing and exploration, and on the other side of that path I was able to help others.


And I became a certified sexologist and a certified counsellor and therapist, and a Tantra practitioner which is now all of these different modalities I’m bringing together to you in my videos.




I’m going to throw in this one here for you briefly because a lot of you are asking me if you can work with me and how you can work with me. First of all, I have a range of online courses. You can access them through my website helenanista.com. And I have a section also on my sessions.


Yes, I’m available for one-on-one sessions all over the world. I work through Zoom and I work with clients in many different countries at the moment.




Some of you have been asking if I get turned on when I’m filming, when i’m talking about all of these erotic, orgasmic, sexual topics. Well, no, not really.


Because when I teach, when I talk about them, I’m much more focused on the delivery of the video. Because there’s obviously quite a few steps that come into creating a finished video that you see on YouTube. So at that point I’m not exactly getting turned on. My mind is just focused on delivering my content in the best way possible, so that it serves you in the best possible way.


I have vast knowledge when it comes to sexuality so I need to make sure that I don’t go on for hours talking about all these topics that I am so, so passionate about.




I do also get a lot of requests for practical demonstrations of things I teach. Well, first of all, my channel is educational. I am a therapist and I’m a sex educator. I teach about this kind of things. If you are looking for porn, please go somewhere else, this is not what I deliver. Please, don’t ask me to demonstrate things on actual body parts because I am not going to do that.


Besides, YouTube won’t let me because YouTube’s rules and regulations are such that we (YouTubers) cannot publish certain content, especially when it’s explicit sexual content. I value this YouTube platform that I can use to connect with all of you guys, with people all over the world so I won’t be risking my YouTube account by publishing anything explicit.


And besides, this is really not who I am! I don’t produce porn. I have no problems with that but that’s just not who I am. This is not what I do. What you see on YouTube is who I am and this is how I’m going to continue sharing my content.



This concludes a first edition of ‘Sex with Helena’ where I invite you guys to my bedroom, to my bed for a more personal chat about me: who I am and my life. I intend to create these videos on some kind of regular basis, maybe once a month (depending on what feels right).


But on a much more regular basis I’m going to keep producing and creating my educational videos because that’s where my passion is. And because that’s what I love doing and that’s what the world really needs: proper, quality, sexual education.


So please, keep sending me your questions, please keep letting me know what kind of content and information you desire and want so I can keep producing that. And for now I’m going to wrap this up so please make sure to keep watching my other amazing, fun, educational videos because I keep pouring my heart and soul into them!

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