When I first heard of crystal dildos, I was intrigued but also apprehensive. The idea of putting stone objects in my vagina was so foreign to me at that stage, that I had no idea what to make of it. But the promises of cervical orgasms and sexual healing were too tempting for me to pass on that opportunity.
Fast forward 5 years and now I have not only used crystal wands – I am a proud owner of a lovely collection of wands and eggs and I’ve had amazing results to support this practice! Within a few weeks of committed practice, I awakened my vaginal canal to the point where I started to experience amazing G-spot orgasms. I re-sensitized and activated my cervix, allowing me to feel profound pleasure and to reach cervical orgasms. I also created a deep awareness of my entire genital area, helping me to sense and enjoy pleasure in new and even surprising ways.
If all that sounds intriguing, I do invite you to consider if a crystal wand practice is something you might bring into your bedroom.
Watch my video to learn if a crystal dildo is right for you!
PS. If you’re keen to get your own Black Obsidian Wand, make sure to visit GoddessWands.com. And use the coupon code ‘HELENA’ to claim your 15% discount on any item available in the store! I’m looking forward to hearing about your experiences with crystal wands 🙂 xxx
I’ve been using crystal wands and vaginal eggs for a number of years now and I get a lot of questions about them from my friends and clients. A lot of women wonder what these crystals can do for them, whether they can help them in any way and whether they’re safe to use. Which is why I decided to give you a sneak peek into my bedroom practice so that you can decide for yourself whether a crystal dildo might be for you!
I recently added a new crystal toy to my naughty drawer which I’m extremely excited about. And this is something I really wanted to share with you because I have never played with black obsidian before. I have mostly used rose quartz, jade and tachyon but never black obsidian. And this is significant because different types of crystals have very different properties which is the first things you need to pay attention to when choosing a pleasure wand.
I felt really attracted to this stone because it clears unwanted energies, supports sexual healing, provides protection and helps you release anything that no longer serves you. And that is EXACTLY what a lot of women need in our society – releasing years of shame, trauma, pain and abuse from their vaginas.
I personally had experienced a lot pain during intercourse, I experienced sexual abuse and even rape in my life. And even though I’ve healed a lot of that over the years, I know that any woman can always go deeper into her healing and into reclaiming her full sexual potential and pleasure power! So let me tell you what you can do with this gorgeous wand!
Step 1 – Breathe and ground
I always start my self-pleasuring practice with deep, abdominal breaths. This grounds me in my body and gets me out of my head. It helps me to feel embodied and connected to my senses. I like to also gently stroke my skin all over, to bring that sense of aliveness and vibrancy into my entire system.
Step 2 – Yoni connection
Next I connect to my genital area. I usually do that by placing one hand on top of my vulva. It feels like an invitation. I’m not going inside just yet. I’m just asking my intimate parts whether it’s ok to enter, whether my body is happy to play sexually. While I hold my vulva, I keep breathing deeply, relaxing my body and creating a sense of safety which is much needed in any healing practice.
Step 3 – Yoni strokes
Next I start caressing my vulva, just externally at this stage. I like to use a high quality lubricant and I play with different strokes, to activate my sex centre and open up my body to pleasure and arousal.
Step 4 – The crystal wand
At this stage, I’m ready and open, my body feels relaxed and prepared to accept the internal touch. This is when I lubricate the wand and insert it into my vagina, really slowly and gently. It’s not about pushing the wand in, it’s about my body accepting the dildo and sort of pulling it inside.
I really encourage you to try this! Simply place the wand at the entrance of your vagina and breathe. Allow yourself to fully feel the cold touch of the stone. As you breathe, allow your genital area to relax completely, and see what happens! I usually experience a sort of heat and desire, like my vagina is pulling the dildo in. And it feels delicious!
Once the wand is in, you have a few options: you can just hold it inside, breathe and notice the sensations. Or if you’re struggling to feel anything, you can gently move or tap the wand to create a bit of movement. I like to gently tap the end of the wand, which gives me a bit of friction and much more sensation in my vaginal canal. And you can also add external stroking of your vulva and your clitoris.
I usually like to play with all of these options and it feels truly amazing. You should feel arousal, pleasure and deep awareness of your entire genital area. When I do this, my entire vaginal canal feels alive, open, relaxed and activated. There truly is magic in using a wand because it activates nerve endings and muscles that you didn’t even know existed. It feels like there’s a wealth of pleasure sensations and aliveness in there. All the way in, not just near the entrance but all the way up to the cervix.
And this is really powerful because a lot of women experience a lot of numbness in their vaginas. After years of using vibrators or experiencing fast, hard thrusting by their partners, they develop numbness or even discomfort. This is why so few women orgasm during intercourse.
Step 5 – Integration
During this practice, you can choose to orgasm or not. But in either case, it’s very important to finish with a few minutes of integration. That means lying on your back, fully relaxed, breathing in a conscious, slow way. This gives the body a chance to integrate all these new sensations and pleasure and to re-train the nervous system in order to help your vagina feel much more in the future.
So my verdict for my new black obsidian pleasure wand is both thumbs up! And if you’d like to get your own, please do proper research and seek recommendation. It’s very important to buy from a reliable supplier. I got my wand from Goddess Wands at goddesswands.com. Before filming this video, I actually had a chat with the owner of Goddess Wands and she graciously granted all my viewers a discount on the wands – the coupon code is ‘HELENA’.
Another reason why I felt good choosing this online store is that when you order your wand, Goddess Wands donate $5 from each sold wand to Little Warriors, a Canadian charity that helps kids heal from sexual abuse and educates adults and caregivers to prevent it. So this gorgeous crystal will not only make your vagina feel great, it will contribute to a much needed change in the world!
If you feel like your pussy is in a need of some healing and deeper sensitivity, get your own black obsidian pleasure wand and let me know in the comments how you go with it. Or maybe you’ve already played with one before in which case I’d love to hear about your experience!
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