How to Breathe Your Body Orgasmic

How to Breathe Your Body Orgasmic

I love prioritizing myself and my pleasure in my daily life. I love creating special time for self-care and self-pleasuring practices. And I do believe that we would be much happier as a society if everybody masturbated regularly and consciously. Feeling pleasure and nurturing the body with sexual energy on a regular basis allows us to be calmer, happier, more focused, creative and kinder to others.

 

The body and mind full of happy hormones result in a joyful, mindful and peaceful human being.

 

My usual practice starts with some physical movement in order to bring awareness to my body. Next I do a breathing practice and engage my pelvic floor muscle. After that I give my entire body a loving and gentle self-massage. Feeling the warmth and softness of my skin feels absolutely delightful and who does not love being caressed?! Some days the self-massage feels so good that I keep going for a long time. Other days, I only do it for a few minutes.

 

Next I start a breast and genital massage. An important aspect of this stage though is the fact that the orgasm is not the goal here. Simply feeling the pleasure and connecting to the body with love while circulating erotic energy throughout is what it is all about. I simply flow with my body. Sometimes I just massage myself until I am satisfied. Sometimes I stimulate a lot of sexual energy and then spread it through my entire body, allowing myself to feel nurtured and rejuvenated. Sometimes I take myself all the way to orgasm and then rest in a trance-like state dropping into a deep, blissful relaxation.

 

One day recently, I decided to have a non-genitally focused self-pleasuring session. You know, just for fun…

 

I deepened my breath, relaxed my body and became aware of my breathing. I kept drawing the breath all the way down to my belly, then releasing it in a slow, effortless exhale. Within a few breaths, I felt sensations moving through my chest and shoulders. Gentle, vibrating sensations.

 

I started engaging my pelvic floor muscle in order to enhance the flow of energy through my body. I continued the breathing for another while – sensing my physical body, relaxing and searching for sensations even deeper, under my skin.

 

Next, I started to gently caress my arms, one at a time, using feather-like strokes of my fingertips. I wondered why I was not feeling a lot of energy in my lower body and I placed my awareness there. I immediately noticed a delicious flow of energy flowing down through my legs.

 

I also started experiencing emotions.

 

First sadness, deep, almost grieving sadness. After a while it passed and my mood became more neutral. Few minutes later I was laughing out loud, full of joy. As that wave of emotion passed again, I experienced some more sadness.

 

I was simply allowing myself to feel all that came up in my body – physical sensations, bodily awareness, flow of life force energy, different emotions. I was not judging anything, not labelling it as positive or negative, not giving myself a hard time because of things I was experiencing…

 

As I started to wrap up my practice, my body felt deeply satisfied, pleasured and nurtured.

 

Using the breath to move our life force energy is the simplest tool to use, yet it is so very powerful. Of course it is not the only tool. But when used to its full potential, it will enhance and intensify any experience.

 

As a very smart person once said: “change the way you masturbate, change your life”.

 

And if you’re ready to change how you masturbate in order to bring much more pleasure, expansion, satisfaction and bliss to your self-touch routine, explore my Masturbation Coaching online program!

Until Sunday you can enrol in the full course at 50% off with coupon code ‘SelfLove’.

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On one hand, I feel like there’s absolutely no need to convince anyone that they should be having orgasms. I think that we’re all more or less aware that orgasms are yum, delicious and amazing! It feels so good to approach one, to have one and to come back to Earth after having one.

 

AND don’t get me started on the multiples!…

 

But on the other hand, I’m also aware of various struggles and frustrations people face in their bedrooms. Some don’t have a partner and are not interested in self-pleasuring, others live in sexless relationships, others still struggle with sexual trauma, wounding, shame or toxic beliefs. All these things will affect the quality and frequency of our erotic experiences and hence – of our orgasms.

 

So in case you do experience some resistance and need a gentle push to ensure your orgasmic life is alive and well, here are some unexpected benefits of the blissful climax:

 

1/ Weight loss

Orgasms increase your levels of CCK (cholecystokinin) which causes the release of digestive enzymes and bile, and acts as a hunger suppressant.

 

2/ Less stress & better mood

Oxytocin released during orgasm not only bonds you emotionally to your lover, it also combats the effects of cortisol in your body, lowering levels of stress and depression.

 

3/ More sex appeal

Regular sexual activity increases and optimises levels of estrogen and testosterone in women, which adds to their libido, improves their mood and creates more sex appeal. Men who orgasm often also enjoy higher levels of testosterone, adding to their strength, masculinity and wellbeing.

 

4/ Better sleep

Oxytocin and vasopressin (both released during orgasm) are involved in lowering the cortisol levels and controlling our circadian rhythm, helping us regulate the internal clock and sleep better.

 

5/ Improved social life

Numerous side effects of the oxytocin boost include improving your social skills and intuition, making you feel more social and trusting, and bonding better with others.

 

6/ Easier periods

Improved blood circulation to a woman’s pelvic area ensures higher levels of nutrients present, healthier tissues and supports a regular menstrual cycle.

 

7/ Better chances of getting pregnant

Women who orgasm during sex (after their partners do) retain more sperm. The increased oxytocin levels will also create healthier pregnancy and will help more women carry to term.

 

8/ Higher immunity

Orgasms boost infection-fighting cells which supports your body in fighting colds and flu.

 

9/ Higher life expectancy

According to studies conducted in Wales over the period of 10 years, people who orgasm regularly live longer than those who don’t. In fact, the difference is a mortality risk lowered by 50% which is quite amazing.

 

10/ More happiness

Although this one is pretty self-explanatory, the wellbeing caused by regular orgasms goes deeper than just an improved emotional state. Multiple chemical changes induced in the body during each orgasm affect your health in a myriad of ways, causing an improved wellbeing and a deeper general sense of life satisfaction.

 

International Masturbation Month is here so make sure to celebrate it with a lot of yummy orgasms! And if you’d like some new, exciting ideas to play with, you’re going to LOVE my Masturbation Coaching online course. It’s a 7-week journey for both men and women who want to expand their sexual and orgasmic potential through a masterful self-touch. This program is full to the brim of tips, techniques and practices that will train your body to open up erotically and experience completely new types of orgasm!

 

To celebrate the Masturbation Month, the entire course is available at 50% off with coupon code ‘SelfLove’.

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10 Unusual Ways to Masturbate

10 Unusual Ways to Masturbate

The International Masturbation Month is in full swing and I think that it’s time to play with some new, fun ideas. I am fond of giving my clients homework (or is it home-play?…) and I hope that you’ll be tempted to try at least a few of these scenarios.

 

Most people I speak to always masturbate the same way.

 

We often form self-touch habits early in life and then keep stroking ourselves in fairly routine ways for years. How about you? Do you still touch yourself the same way you did 10-15 years ago?

 

This can be problematic because you can end up wiring your nervous system to respond to particular kind of stimulation, which can then unfortunately limit your sexual potential. So here are a few interesting ways to shake up your self-pleasure routine!

 

1/ Bath tub

Fill the tub with warm water and add Epson salts, essential oils, bubble bath, or anything else you like. Once you get in, warm water will deeply relax your entire body plus it will caress and stimulate your skin, adding an extra level of sensation to your experience. Touching and stroking yourself in that state will take you to a whole new level of delish!

 

2/ Mirror

Use a full-length mirror or a small hand-held mirror placed in front of genitals (or both!). This will allow you to see what you look like in arousal plus how your body is responding to your self-stimulation. Most people have never seen themselves when turned on and have no idea how hot they look!

 

3/ Vibrator on the body

Stimulating different parts of your body with a vibrator can be a lot of fun! Most people only use vibrators on their genitalia but using them to stimulate others body parts can be extremely pleasurable and arousing. For example, applying a vibrating toy to your chest will not only provide lovely stimulation there, it’ll also help your body send the arousal upwards, helping your sexual energy spread and expand.

 

4/ Vibrator on the anus

One of my teachers, Joseph Kramer, Ph.D., claims that stimulating the anal opening with a vibrator can induce trance-like states of bliss. How about testing this for yourself?

 

5/ External/internal anal massage

Speaking of the anus – when was the last time you gave yourself an anal massage? Make sure to use plenty of lubrication as the anus doesn’t produce any of its own. And be gentle with yourself – massage the anus externally in any way that feels delicious to you. And if you’re adventurous, you can venture inside. But remember – anal stimulation should never hurt. If it does, slow down, add more lube and be much, much gentler!

 

6/ Hands-free

Using hands to stroke ourselves can create tension in the body and can reduce your pleasure.

This is why going hands-free can be a lot of fun! But it requires a bit of preparation. If you’re a woman, you can attach a vibrator to a nightstand or a table and move your body on it in any way that feels good.

If you’re a man, you can attach a Fleshlight (or a similar toy) on an appropriate height that will allow you to thrust into it easily. If you don’t own a vagina-shaped toy, you can use a plastic bag with some lubricant in it. Sticky-tape it to any surface and thrust away!

 

7/ Use air

Use a fan or a fan-heater to stimulate your genital area with either cool or warm air. This can be extremely arousing but make sure to adjust the air temperature so it’s not too hot or not too cold!

 

8/ Water play

Shower heads can be absolutely exquisite as a source of sexual pleasure. If you can, adjust the water pressure to your liking and let warm water stroke, caress and massage your intimate bits. Because the sensations will be gentler than direct hand touch, this will provide a lot of teasing before you come!

 

9/ Dancing

Instead of masturbating on your bed, stand up, put lively music on and stroke yourself while dancing. Don’t think about how to move – nobody’s watching you anyways! You don’t have to show off any sexy dance moves. Instead, listen to your body and move in any way your body wants to move. You can shake, jump, bounce, stretch or flow. Whatever you do, stay connected to your arousal and your pleasure!

 

10/ Make a video

As you begin your masturbation session, set up the camera in your phone and hit “Record”. Do a show, enjoy yourself but don’t rush it! Take your time and slowly explore your eroticism in front of the camera. Nobody else needs to ever watch it (unless you show them). And the awareness of being recorded will give you a sense of being witnessed, which can be a huge turn-on for many!

 

 

But wait – that’s not the end! If you enjoyed this list, you’re going to LOVE my Masturbation Coaching online course. It’s a 7-week journey for both men and women who want to expand their sexual and orgasmic potential through a masterful self-touch. This program is full to the brim of tips, techniques and practices that will train your body to open up erotically and experience completely new types of orgasm!

 

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May is here which means different things for different people. But for sex therapists, it’s the International Masturbation Month! What does it mean? It means that for the entire 31 days we encourage everybody to openly discuss self-touch, self-pleasure practices and healthy masturbation habits.

 

And why not?! We all enjoy pleasure. In fact our primal instinct is to seek pleasure and avoid pain.

 

But how much pleasure exactly are we allowing in our lives?…

 

A week ago I started to consciously bring more pleasure into my life – I mean, what better way to beat the Coronavirus blues?… I’ve been taking long, luxurious baths with scented oils and Epsom salts, having that coffee break when I need it, while indulging in a piece of dark organic chocolate, listening to beautiful music when performing chores at home, enjoying a glass of my favourite wine at dinner time, having extra long self-pleasuring sessions as often as I can, meeting my friends (online) for long and meaningful conversations, preparing delicious meals, dancing, singing, reading, taking mindful breaks in the middle of a busy day… The list goes on!

 

This pleasure focus can be also very successfully used in your masturbation practice!

 

A lot of people get into a bit of a rut in their self-touch habits. They develop masturbation routines early on in life and then continue touching themselves in the same ways for many, many years. It seems that efficiency becomes the main goal here and once we discover the most effective strokes, we reach for them every time.

 

But masturbation can be much more than just a quick way to bring you to a climax. It can be a source of incredible delights and a powerful training tool to keep expanding your body’s erotic potential. It can be a way to heal you, to deeply nurture your body with blissful energy and even to have your mind blown on a regular basis…

 

If you are not quite certain where to begin your pleasure exploration, mindfulness is a great way to discover some new, delicious erogenous zones.

 

Take a moment to sit down in silence, close your eyes and notice the way your body is feeling. Our bodies speak to us all the time, they know exactly what we need. They keep whispering but we usually do not listen. See if you can hear that whisper… Don’t think about it, don’t try to figure it out. Simply FEEL your body and notice where it desires to be touched.

 

When you masturbate, apply the same mindfulness approach. You can also throw in a healthy pinch of curiosity. Take your time, don’t rush the experience. Explore your entire body. Look for pleasure sensations, look for the most sensitive, yummy spots. How much can you discover? What can you learn about your pleasure zones?

 

When I first started studying Masturbation Coaching, I was spending a lot of time on homework practices.

 

And I couldn’t believe how much I was learning about my own body – and that’s after many, many years of touching myself in the same boring ways previously!… One of the things I learned was that when I slowly drag my fingernails up my stomach, that sends shivers of pleasure through my spine… Wow, I had no idea!!!

 

How about you? How can YOU bring more pleasure into your Masturbation Month? If you’re a bit stuck for ideas, check out my Masturbation Coaching online course. It’s one of my most popular programs with thousands of people all over the world enrolled to date. And to celebrate this very special month, I’m offering the entire course at half price with coupon code SelfLove. Enrol now and begin your own Masturbation Journey!

 

It’s only 6 May and I’ve been having an amazing month so far!… How about you?… 

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