How Is Covid-19 Affecting Your Sex Life?

How Is Covid-19 Affecting Your Sex Life?

Mere weeks ago, we had no idea what a Coronavirus was. In early March I was still planning my workshops and events (yes, in person!) and filling my calendar with social get-togethers. I was popping into my favourite cafés for a brunch or coffee while looking forward to an August trip to Europe to see my family. Awwww… good old times!

 

When the social distancing measures were put in place, I deleted a lot of things from my calendar.

 

And whatever was left, I converted into the online world. I moved all my sessions and events onto Zoom and cancelled anything that I couldn’t do online.

 

I’m still working – from home. I can get a lot done with a laptop and an internet connection so I’m feeling fortunate. I’m also still able to run sessions with clients which allows me a deep insight into the minds, hearts and bedrooms of people all over the world. Some are home alone, some are with their partners, some with families or friends. And many are reporting some level of impact that COVID-19 is having on their sex life and libido.

 

There are people who are now desiring sex more than ever.

 

The uncertainty we’re currently experiencing about our lives, our future, or our health can be a driving force behind seeking comfort and safety in the arms of a lover. This means a deep frustration for people who are single or live alone, or are separated from their partners.

 

Many people are currently feeling unsettled, frustrated, lost or angry at the Coronavirus situation and sex can provide a much needed release, a happy place to go to in order to lift our moods and morale. Spending intimate time with our partners can also be an amazing therapy in this strange world of isolation and disconnection.

 

But there are also people for whom sex is at the bottom of the priority list right now.

 

A sense of stress, fear or anxiety can repress libido and push sex out of our minds. After all, why would you worry about sex if your job, your income, your family or your own health and life were potentially at risk right now?!

 

Couples who are spending a lot of time together can also struggle with conflict and resentment. And if there are kids present in the house as well, that just might mean even less privacy and more stress keeping both partners from connecting sexually.

 

We’re living in unprecedented times (and hey, what a great story to tell our grandkids one day!) so it’s crucial to find our own way through the confusion, anxiety, fear or grief caused by COVID-19.

 

The first thing is to not judge yourself for potentially not coping with it all as well as you would ideally like.

 

And the second – to self-nurture, with the kind of compassion you would show a loved one.

 

This might mean sleeping a bit longer than you usually would. Or eating more comfort foods. Or giving yourself more time to deliver your tasks and chores. Or saying “no” to some things. Taking walks, taking baths, having regular Zoom calls with the people you love. Reading more, reading less, setting up a garden, taking up a hobby or binge watching a show on Netflix.

 

And if you’re really struggling with lack of sex-life right now, then creating regular sessions of self-pleasure might just be the right thing for you!

 

Make sure to schedule a regular time to touch, stroke and caress your entire body. Don’t focus just on your genitals. Imagine that your body is a body of the most exquisite lover and give yourself the kind of TLC that you would give them!

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Just over six years ago, in March 2014, I had my “accident” which caused a dramatic shift in my life. One moment, I was having sex with my partner and the next – I was in excruciating pain, shock and then in a hospital. That experience was scary, enormously painful and made me question my life, my sexuality and my relationships.

 

It also led me to leaving my old life behind in order to explore Tantra and sacred sexuality.

 

Not long after that day, I attended my first ever tantric workshop which introduced me to tantric philosophy. The attendees were guided through a ritual that unexpectedly opened my eyes to a completely new, profound and magical way of relating to each other.

 

There was one particularly memorable moment there when I experienced a trance-like state of presence, love and bliss – all while we had our clothes on and were barely touching one another!

 

This experience left me feeling mind-blown, in awe…

 

I felt like someone suddenly opened my eyes to a completely new way of being that I had no idea existed. Like when you think that you have life all figured-out and then you learn about a back room full of magic and wonders…

 

Since that day, I never looked back. I started immersing myself in tantric education and practice until I became a certified practitioner and started teaching others.

 

Six years later and after having run thousands of clients’ sessions, courses, workshops and events, I can proudly say that I have a wealth of knowledge, insight and expertise to share. And I would love to introduce every single couple on the planet to Tantra!

 

I believe that every single relationship can benefit from tantric rituals and practices in order to:

 

  • Deepen their love and heart-felt connection,
  • Expand sexual pleasure for both partners,
  • Create an experience of profoundly merging in an ecstatic union,
  • Deepen the intimate awareness of each other and the ability to truly see, hear and feel each other,
  • Take the relationship to the next level,
  • And much more!

 

My new online course Tantric Sex for Couples which was released earlier this week will teach you all of that and more! This program is a true game changer in the world of romantic relating and couples. This is also the most straightforward path to more joy, love and sexual satisfaction in your life together!

 

To celebrate the launch, I’m offering the entire course at a 70% discount until Sunday.

Use coupon code ECSTASY to claim the reduced price and I look forward to seeing you on the other side of magic!

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Through a variety of harsh or rushed sexual experiences we usually develop a certain hardness (armouring) in our genitals.

 

Its function is to protect the delicate tissue of the skin from friction. This is achieved by numbing the body’s response to touch. This protective function, however, also limits our ability to feel pleasure. Have you ever heard anybody say that they cannot feel a lot or any pleasure while having sex? That’s because their body has armoured itself in the course of ongoing aggressive, fast or friction-driven sexual contact.

 

Fortunately, our body has also the ability to de-armour itself. This is done through a regular practice of being re-sensitized. The technique I am about to share with you helps with exactly this issue and can be used for any body part, however, I will concentrate here on the genitals. The technique is called ‘breathing into your genitals’ and is as simple as it sounds.

 

Don’t be deceived by its simplicity though because it’s also extremely powerful when used correctly!

 

This technique can be practiced anytime as nobody will be able to tell what you are doing. I particularly recommend doing the breathing in five-minute blocks a few times every day.

 

You can practice whenever you find yourself in a situation where you can safely give some of your attention to your breathing practice. I usually do mine in the car, while watching TV, reading a book, listening to a lecture, studying, meditating, etc. I find it a bit more tricky to practice while I’m moving – going for a walk, shopping, etc., however, do give it a go if you feel like it!…

 

How to perform the practice:

 

As you take a deep breath in, imagine that the air you’re inhaling is flowing all the way down to your genitals. And as you exhale, keep your awareness there – in your pussy or penis. As you continue this practice, make sure that your breath is long, deep and full. It should not feel like an effort though, more like a deep wave of air flowing through your body in a full but relaxed way.

 

With every breath allow your genitals to relax more and more, being “filled” with the air you are inhaling – like a balloon. Feel your entire genital area opening up more and more, like a beautiful flower. Feel your muscles and tissues softening and your intimate bits relaxing, gently caressed by the air you are breathing.

 

The essence of this technique is becoming fully aware of the sensitivity of your genital area, which will keep growing and expanding while you’re breathing deeply. 

 

The combination of deep breath, muscle relaxation and placement of your attention in your genitals is a powerful combo! The effects are usually felt pretty quickly.

 

I still remember the first day I tried this practice – I did this breathing practice 3 times in one day, approximately five minutes each time. A few hours later I had sex with my lover and I just could not believe what was happening to my body! The incredible pleasure of having him inside me was more intense than ever before… Plus I was so wet, I actually thought that he might have already ejaculated inside me. I actually asked him whether he did but it was my own juice flowing more abundantly than ever before.

 

So there you go – so simple yet so powerful! Please do give this practice a go and let me know how it worked for you. I look forward to hearing your stories of pleasure, sensuality and joy!

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Most people I speak to and coach, have no idea that they can have and give each other orgasmic experiences located in different areas of their bodies. In bed, they usually focus touch and stimulation on the genitals. Even when there is some foreplay and some kissing involved, that kind of touch is considered an entrée before the main meal – meaning penetration or oral sex.

 

What we tend to forget is that the entire body is one big erogenous zone. And ecstatic pleasure can be stimulated to an orgasmic peak anywhere where the body is sensitive enough to feel pleasure. So how do you give your partner a breast-gasm?

 

1/ Create a space of relaxation

Preparing the space always helps – tidy up the room, bring in nice cushions, music, candles, incense sticks, etc. Once your partner makes herself comfortable, invite her to relax and then start caressing her entire body in a loving way. Use gentle, feather-light touch or soft, flowing strokes.

Let go of any goals, don’t expect anything specific to happen and allow her to surrender to your touch.

 

2/ Invite her to breathe

We all tend to get distracted, even in moments of pleasure. Active minds pull us away from the sensations present in the body and we miss out on the intensity. There is no way to have a blissful moment of ecstasy when the mind is occupied with something else.

So keep reminding her to breathe deeply, slowly. This will help her remain mindful of her pleasure, aware of all the intense and subtle sensations and energetic shifts.

 

3/ Tease her

Touch her breasts gently, lightly. Don’t start with the nipples. Start with feather-light strokes circling her breasts, each one separately and then both together. Allow your fingers to gently wander closer to the areola and then backing away. Nipples are very sensitive so don’t touch them too quickly.

Also, make sure to allow your hands to wander off of her breasts and down to her belly and legs and up to her neck, face and arms. This will encourage the pleasurable energy to keep spreading through her body.

 

4/ Nipple touch

When she’s ready for more, include nipples in your touch. Start with very gentle strokes, tracing the areola with a very light touch. Next you can move onto rolling her nipples between your fingers and then finally, to pinching them. This will release waves of pleasure hormones in her body. Make sure to keep varying your touch between lighter and firmer strokes.

 

5/ Keep edging

Edging is an amazing technique but you need to really pay attention to her body. Keep watching her, noticing her pleasure states. When she reaches high state of arousal, back off, remind her to breathe and move your touch away from her breasts. When she’s calm and relaxed again, build up more arousal and erotic charge in her breasts again.

Continuously dance between arousal and relaxation, allowing her to channel and experience her pleasure through her entire system.

 

6/ Encourage her to move

It might help her to move and undulate her body while you keep touching her. Relaxed movement combined with deep breath allow any pleasure sensations to grow and move through her system. You can further support that flow of energy by moving your strokes between her breasts and the rest of her body. Move her energy down her stomach and legs, up her arms and neck. And when it feels right to do so, let go of edging and allow her to fall into a deep state of orgasmic bliss.

 

This process should take at least half an hour. The longer you’ll tease and arouse her, the more powerful her breast-gasm will be. Quick, rushed sessions of breast touch are usually not enough to build her energy up enough for a powerful climax. So make sure to enjoy yourself. If you’re not having fun while touching her breasts, it’s not likely that she will!

If you want to learn more, check out my Tantric Mastery online course for men.

And if your lady struggles with her own sensuality and orgasmic ability, speak to her about my Orgasmic Empowerment course for women!

 

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