Breasts and Nipple-Gasms

Breasts and Nipple-Gasms

Josh was a very slow and attentive lover. In fact, whenever I was with him, the whole world just seemed to slow down, luxuriously basking in each moment, relaxing in an awareness that there was absolutely nowhere else to be and nothing else to do.


He adored my body and I adored his touch. I particularly enjoyed the attention he gave my breasts. He loved to caress them with his hands, lips and tongue. And he was not in a rush either. He was either fully aware of just how much stimulation a female body needs in order to build up enough arousal, or he was indeed enjoying himself so much he did not want to move on. In either case, what he was doing was working great!


I still remember the first time he gave me a nipple-gasm.


We were playing in his bed and he was really taking his time with my breasts. I was lying back and enjoying his touch. My body kept relaxing and opening up more and more to the pleasure he was giving me. I was letting out satisfied sounds and my body was gently undulating on the mattress.


My excitement was slowly building up as I felt strong, electric energy shooting down from my breasts to my genitals. I was absolutely loving the pleasure he was giving me; the stimulation was absolutely perfect. His touch was not too firm and not too light. I could feel myself getting wet while delicious heat was spreading through my vagina. I did not want him to stop!


And then it happened!


The erotic charge in my breasts exploded through my chest as the pleasure was almost too much to handle. A warm wave of a loving energy kept expanding through my system, starting in my heart and then rippling out through my body. I was mind-blown, I was in a trance, I was floating in a deeply orgasmic state as my whole body was trembling in ecstasy.


When I was finally able to control my muscles, I reached out and held Josh tight, his chest firmly pressed against mine, both of us swimming in the golden glow of my nipple-gasm.


Next time you are with your lover, make sure to spend more time with her breasts than you usually do.


Remember not to go for her nipples too quickly; they are very sensitive and will become much more ready for touch once she is aroused. Caress, massage and lick her breasts while checking in with her about the pressure and speed of the stimulation. Many men use way too much pressure on the breasts, which can actually turn her off. Women usually complain that their partners do not know how to touch their breasts, so keep seeking feedback.


Experiment with different kinds of touch and strokes. Be curious, ask her what she enjoys the most and how she touches her breasts herself. Learn about her breasts and about how they respond to stimulation. I promise that you will make your lover one extremely happy and satisfied woman!


– from “Legendary Lover: 6 Essential Steps to Having Great Sex” by Helena Nista


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How Do You Want To Be Loved?

The week of Valentine’s Day means different things to different people. Some people excitedly look forward to it, others choose to ignore it or even reject it, others still feel frustrated or extra lonely that day. All depends on your relationship status, your level of happiness in that relationship or singlehood and views on celebrating love and romance.


I personally am not terribly fussed either way. But if there happens to be a man in my life, I like for us to do something special. And the more creative and non-commercial that something special is, the better. Some of my ideas would include picnic on the beach or dancing the night away in his arms.


And this brings me to a broader topic of love and more specifically – of different ways that people love.


Most people seem to think that there is just one way to love – their way. I once worked with a client who was frustrated that his wife wouldn’t touch him enough to express her love. After all, wouldn’t you kiss, embrace and caress your beloved on a regular basis? And if you don’t, then what is wrong with you???


Well, funny that… Touching your partner is actually just one way to show and express love. In reality there are many different ways and each way can have a number of their own nuances and variations.


Assuming that all people would naturally love the same way that we feel inclined to love doesn’t take into account the massive complexity of our emotional nature.


I like the way Gary Chapman simplifies this issue in his amazing book “The 5 Love Languages”. He states that broadly speaking, there are 5 ways that we can give and receive love and that most people use primarily one or two of these languages:


1/ Quality time

Spending uninterrupted time together (no TV, no phones, no other people, no work or chores).


2/ Physical touch

This love language is not about sex! It’s about touching, holding, kissing, caressing each other on a daily basis.


3/ Gifts

The gifts can be big and impressive or small and simple. It’s not about how much money was spent on a gift but the thought that was put into it.


4/ Acts of Service

Little things we do for each other daily – cleaning the house, preparing the meal, taking care of a task for your beloved…


5/ Words of affirmation

Telling your partner things that you love or appreciate about them – about something they did, about who they are, etc.


The trouble here is that we tend to give love in the same language that we want to receive it. But if our partner speaks a different love language, our efforts will be in vain. Which is why it’s so important to recognize how your partner actually wants to be loved.


But for now ask yourself these questions:

  • How do I desire to be loved?
  • When do I feel most loved by my partner?
  • When was the last time I felt really loved?

These are a great starting point to build more awareness in your own love language.


And gentlemen, if you’d like to show your ladies some extra love in the bedroom this Valentine’s Day, enrol in Tantric Mastery – an online course that will teach you how to give her not only an exquisite tantric massage but also a number of different kinds of orgasms. Ladies, this could be a perfect Valentine’s Day gift! Use coupon code VALENTINE for 50% off (only until Sunday 16 Feb).



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There are many reasons why I love driving my car – it’s the ultimate “me-time”! I don’t need to do anything (other than drive), I feel relaxed, the car is comfortable, I get to listen to my favourite music or audiobooks… And!… I get to play with my arousal.


Typically, I’ll start with a few clenches of my pelvic floor, usually coordinated with the breath. This activates my muscles nicely, and increases the sensitivity of the area. Next, I’ll deepen my breath, while fully relaxing my genital muscles. With every inhale, I’ll keep sending more air, more attention and more relaxation into my genitals.


This kind of exercise creates sexual arousal.


And it feels amazing! As I keep noticing the warm, tingling, buzzing energy growing in my pussy, I allow myself to fully enjoy the pleasure. It doesn’t feel frustrating or like I need to do anything with it. I simply remain relaxed, breathing deeply and sending the energy up and out through my entire system.


After a while, my whole body feels nurtured, nourished, buzzing, alive…


And it’s the most delightful experience! Sometimes I’ll perform some tantric breathing techniques to consciously direct that arousal up my spine but at this stage the flow of energy feels quite natural and unrestricted all by itself. It’s like my arousal KNOWS where to go.


This kind of play is not just something I do in the car. I’ll do it while working on my computer, reading a book, talking to someone, meditating… Anywhere and anytime is fine. Every day and ideally – multiple times each day. It’s like an energetic boost to my system and to my mood!


In my sessions with male clients, I often find that they experience arousal as a frustration, a nuisance, a distraction, sometimes it can be even painful. And I find that erotic energy can feel this way when it remains in the genitals. You’ve probably heard of the “blue balls” phenomenon caused by unsatisfied sexual desire.


But it doesn’t have to be this way!


Men don’t have to suffer when their arousal cannot be released through ejaculation with the person they desire. They can actually look at a sexy woman, they can enjoy her form, feel excited by her… and channel that arousal into a full-body fulfilment!


They can walk away from her feeling nurtured by her beauty, not frustrated by it!


It’s not hard to move your arousal away from your genitals and to send it out into every cell of your being. It’s not hard to use it to create a state of deep internal aliveness and activation! Your body came equipped with everything you need to move and control your erotic charge – your breath, muscle control and placement of awareness are all you need to perform this task.


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