How Big Is Your Orgasmic Potential?

How Big Is Your Orgasmic Potential?

Many years ago, when I was starting my tantric journey, I was a total sponge for all the tantric knowledge, experiences and practices that I could find. Apart from reading a ton of books about Tantra and going to all the workshops I could find, I was also visiting different practitioners, healers and sex therapists.


One of these therapists was a woman who had been featured in the media for breathing herself to orgasm.


I thought it was quite impressive and I wanted to do the same. But I wasn’t quite there yet. I was still dealing with painful intercourse, lack of orgasms and sexual frustrations.


During one of our sessions she told me that despite being in her 50s, her own sexual potential never stopped expanding. She said that she was having the best sex of her life yet and that she still kept discovering new types of orgasm.


Many sessions, practices and experiences later, I came to understand fully what she meant. And that got me thinking…


How come the definition of orgasm is so limited in our society?


How come the ability to have expanded, full-body, long-lasting, mystical and mind-blowing orgasms is not common knowledge? Why nobody teaches us that an orgasm can be much more than a few seconds of pleasurable climax accompanied by genital contractions?


And how big is our orgasmic potential REALLY?


Orgasms can manifest as a lot of different things…


… powerful energy flowing through your whole body causing you to shake ecstatically, deeply peaceful bliss expanding through your system, trance-like state of pleasure where your brain shuts down completely and you find yourself in another realm, in a different universe… It can feel like shivers, tingles, goose bumps, aliveness spreading up and down through every single cell in your body… It can originate in many different parts of your body – in your genitals, breasts/chest, heart, throat, anus, ear, neck, arm… It can feel like a flood of emotions – laughter, sadness, tears, grief, rage, joy, happiness, love…


The trick here is to start seeing orgasm as something larger, deeper, more profound, longer-lasting, more satisfying. Something truly blissful, expanded and out of this world, that can travel ecstatically into your very core and completely knock your socks off.


But if all you ever understand as orgasm are a few seconds of pleasurable contractions in your genital region, that’s all you’ll ever experience as orgasm.


Remember, the more you expand your understanding of orgasm, the more your orgasm will expand.


Many, many times I cried or laughed through my orgasms. And it felt like an amazing energetic release happening in my entire body. That energy seemed to have no end and I learned to keep moving it and encouraging it to keep flowing in order for me to remain in an orgasmic state for minutes or hours.


So, how do YOU experience orgasm?

How does it feel in your body?

What emotions do you feel if any?

Does it nurture or deplete you?

Does it leave you feeling frustrated and incomplete or deeply satisfied?

And what exactly do you understand by the word ‘orgasm’?


This simple reflection will allow you to map out where you are sexually and orgasmically right now…


… and where you can be if you decide to follow this path. If you want to learn more, I’ve designed a 7-week online course full of practices, insights and tips for expanding the world of your orgasmic potential.


This course will also teach you how to take your erotic essence out into your life, so it doesn’t just express in the bedroom.


You’ll learn how to bring that sexy aliveness into any area of your life you want.


Imagine walking through your life with the fullness of your juiciness and sensuality, expressing it in the way you interact with others and with the life itself. If you want to become a woman who consciously uses her energy to become more attractive and charismatic, you’ll love the Orgasmic Empowerment for Women. I look forward to seeing you there!



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How to Make Online Dating Work for You

Since I started running Soulmate Speed-Dating events, I’ve been talking to a lot of single people. And they’ve shared with me countless stories of struggles, challenges and disappointments of the modern dating life.


Somehow, it seems that finding The One has been getting more and more tricky these days.


A big part of that conversation usually is the internet and the world of online dating. Every time I ask people about it, I’m told that they are sick of it and that it has led them nowhere – message exchanges that don’t lead to a date, poor first dates that show no promise of compatibility or lovely get-togethers after which they never hear back from the other person.


And what that tells me is that we have it all backwards. The truth is that online dating absolutely can work and can lead to a meaningful connection with someone truly special. BUT we need to change our approach to it.


The way that online dating usually works is:


a) browse online profiles,

b) make your best judgement about others based on their photos and bios,

c) message each other in order to arrange a coffee date.

So we’re basically going out together and trying to make a connection with a complete stranger, someone we know nothing about. And to me that’s a recipe for disaster.


We’re meeting first and trying to make a connection later.


That’s backwards! In real life we go out with someone BECAUSE we’ve experienced some sort of connection or pull towards them first. In this traditional approach we connect first and THEN we date. But the online world has turned dating on its head and so the new approach is to date first and then to hope for a potential connection. Can you see now why you keep going on so many bad dates?


The success and popularity of my Soulmate Speed-Dating events can be explained by the fact that they facilitate deep conversations and vulnerable exchanges.


Attendees are guided to share their most authentic inner selves and to see the same in others. This allows them to detect quickly whether there is a compatibility there and a potential for a soulmate-type of relationship. After the event, these people go out together precisely because they had already experienced this kind of connection during the event.


So the question is: can you create the same thing in the online world as well? And the answer is ‘Yes’. You can absolutely create a connection first but it takes a little more time and work. But I believe that weeding out the potential disaster dates is well worth the effort!


The key is to create an opportunity for a deeper connection before you physically meet each other.


And you can simply do that on the phone. A phone call can be more stressful than emailing but it will reveal much more about them than a message would. So go ahead, call them and ask them about their cherished childhood memories, their sources of inspiration in daily lives or about their dreams and goals. It doesn’t really matter where exactly you take the conversation, as long as it goes into the more deep and meaningful territory. And then listen and share about yourself as well.


And this is where the magic will happen… or not.


Because that simple exchange will give you a deeper sense about your potential date. In many cases you’ll realize that you two have absolutely nothing in common or that the energy between you two feels just flat. And this will save you time or upset of a bad date. But if the conversation flows smoothly, you’re both enjoying it and you find points of connection easily, then you should definitely go out!


So now, equipped with that piece of advice you can turn your online dating efforts into a much more effective adventure. And you might even meet your soulmate!



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3 Surprising Things that Make Men Fall in Love

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Hello, modern woman. Whether you’re single and dating or in a relationship, there’s something I’d love to share with you today. This information actually changed lives of countless women and allowed them to not only date better but to also create better, more loving and healthier relationships.


When I was in my 20s, I really loved dating. And a big part of my excitement were the preparations for each date – doing my hair and makeup and dressing up nicely for the man I was about to meet.


And I was absolutely certain that I had to show him the most sexy, gorgeous and attractive version of myself if I wanted him to stay.


There is obviously nothing wrong with that – men LOVE to look at beautiful women! But I was lacking a deeper understanding of men and of human nature. Because you see, men love to have sex with women who arouse their desire. But they fall in love with women who intrigue them and touch them on a very profound level. And pretty looks, short skirts or even boobie shots cannot create that kind of attraction.


So here are 3 surprising things that make men fall in love:


1/ Her passion

A woman who is deeply passionate about something is charismatic and very attractive to men. And it usually doesn’t matter what her passion is – it can be playing cello or collecting tupperware. He will find it exciting and even mesmerising to witness her talking about or acting on something that gives her so much joy that she immerses herself in it completely.

The reason why so many women get this wrong is that we’re conditioned to be pleasers. When a woman wants to impress a guy, she’ll adopt his passions and activities. But men see through this, lose attraction and walk away.

Instead of bending yourself backwards to show him that the two of you are alike, express yourself through what truly opens up your heart and makes your soul sing. He will see and admire your passion.


2/ Her authenticity

Most women at their core want to love someone and be loved in return. In order to achieve that, they might be willing to sacrifice their own views, opinions and dreams if these are not aligned with the decisions or views of the man they want to seduce or keep. But what huge majority of men find attractive is a woman who is fiercely committed to what she believes in and who won’t bend to please others.

We all need to be open to negotiation and a change of plans from time to time. But if you want him to stay by your side, show him that you have a spine and can make choices for yourself.


3/ Her femininity

Our culture encourages women to be successful, efficient and business-minded. We value punctuality, goals, results and hard work. But the essence of a woman is to flow, to be connected to her feelings and heart, instead of only living in her head. Women are softer than men, emotional and go through cyclical changes in line with their hormones and feelings. They’re intuitive and not always reasonable. To deny that aspect of a woman is to deny her true self.

Let go of the need to adhere to society’s standards and show him your feminine essence. The attraction between sexes is based on polarity between men and women. The more different we are, the more we attract each other. Men don’t always understand women’s complexity and emotionality but they’re always mesmerised by it.



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