‘Orgasm is a state of being that arises naturally when we are more relaxed in sex’ – Diana Richardson This quote from one of my early teachers beautifully and simply captures the essence of tantric sex. Yet at the same time, its deep wisdom seems counterintuitive to...read more
Many years ago, when I was starting my tantric journey, I was a total sponge for all the tantric knowledge, experiences and practices that I could find. Apart from reading a ton of books about Tantra and going to all the workshops I could find, I was also visiting different practitioners, healers and sex therapists.
One of these therapists was a woman who had been featured in the media for breathing herself to orgasm.
I thought it was quite impressive and I wanted to do the same. But I wasn’t quite there yet. I was still dealing with painful intercourse, lack of orgasms and sexual frustrations.
During one of our sessions she told me that despite being in her 50s, her own sexual potential never stopped expanding. She said that she was having the best sex of her life yet and that she still kept discovering new types of orgasm.
Many sessions, practices and experiences later, I came to understand fully what she meant. And that got me thinking…
How come the definition of orgasm is so limited in our society?
How come the ability to have expanded, full-body, long-lasting, mystical and mind-blowing orgasms is not common knowledge? Why nobody teaches us that an orgasm can be much more than a few seconds of pleasurable climax accompanied by genital contractions?
And how big is our orgasmic potential REALLY?
Orgasms can manifest as a lot of different things…
… powerful energy flowing through your whole body causing you to shake ecstatically, deeply peaceful bliss expanding through your system, trance-like state of pleasure where your brain shuts down completely and you find yourself in another realm, in a different universe… It can feel like shivers, tingles, goose bumps, aliveness spreading up and down through every single cell in your body… It can originate in many different parts of your body – in your genitals, breasts/chest, heart, throat, anus, ear, neck, arm… It can feel like a flood of emotions – laughter, sadness, tears, grief, rage, joy, happiness, love…
The trick here is to start seeing orgasm as something larger, deeper, more profound, longer-lasting, more satisfying. Something truly blissful, expanded and out of this world, that can travel ecstatically into your very core and completely knock your socks off.
But if all you ever understand as orgasm are a few seconds of pleasurable contractions in your genital region, that’s all you’ll ever experience as orgasm.
Remember, the more you expand your understanding of orgasm, the more your orgasm will expand.
Many, many times I cried or laughed through my orgasms. And it felt like an amazing energetic release happening in my entire body. That energy seemed to have no end and I learned to keep moving it and encouraging it to keep flowing in order for me to remain in an orgasmic state for minutes or hours.
So, how do YOU experience orgasm?
How does it feel in your body?
What emotions do you feel if any?
Does it nurture or deplete you?
Does it leave you feeling frustrated and incomplete or deeply satisfied?
And what exactly do you understand by the word ‘orgasm’?
This simple reflection will allow you to map out where you are sexually and orgasmically right now…
… and where you can be if you decide to follow this path. If you want to learn more, I’ve designed a 7-week online course full of practices, insights and tips for expanding the world of your orgasmic potential.
This course will also teach you how to take your erotic essence out into your life, so it doesn’t just express in the bedroom.
You’ll learn how to bring that sexy aliveness into any area of your life you want.
Imagine walking through your life with the fullness of your juiciness and sensuality, expressing it in the way you interact with others and with the life itself. If you want to become a woman who consciously uses her energy to become more attractive and charismatic, you’ll love the Orgasmic Empowerment for Women. I look forward to seeing you there!
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