5 Must-try Masturbation Moves for Her

5 Must-try Masturbation Moves for Her

If you’re like most people, you probably always masturbate in the same way. It’s likely that over time you have developed a masturbation routine that works for you. This routine is a set of moves and strokes that give you pleasure and bring you to orgasm in the quickest and most efficient way.


When I ask my clients, they mostly admit that they’re still masturbating now the same way they did 10 years ago. This tells me that they don’t give their self-pleasure a lot of thought. And I mean – if it isn’t broken, why fix it! Yet, there’s a powerful reason why you might consider trying new things in your solo sexual practice!


If you always touch your genital area the same way, you’re actually limiting your erotic and orgasmic potential. You’re basically wiring your system for orgasms induced by your fingers or a vibrator stroking you in a very particular way. This can lead to difficulties when trying to orgasm with a partner. Plus there’s a world of different, varied, expanded pleasure sensations when we open ourselves to new experiences and sensations!


Would you like to try some of my favourite moves?


1/ Start by touching your entire body

If you usually rush your touch straight to your genital area, try something different and give yourself a loving full-body massage. Doesn’t it feel amazing to be touched and stroked all over by another person? You can offer your own body a wealth of pleasure by touching yourself from head to toe.

Try gently stroking your skin, massaging your feet, caressing your belly and dragging your nails down your inner arms. Caress your neck and massage your ears. No area of your body is off-limits!

Give this part at least 10 minutes.


2/ Breast massage

Woman’s breasts are sensitive and very receptive to touch. Yet most women never touch their own breasts!

Treat your chest to a luxurious massage. Use a massage oil of your choice (Yoni Elixir is one of my favs!) and slowly spread it all over, one breast at a time. Next, take some time drawing circles with your hands on the outer edges of your breasts. Start moving your hands up the centre of your chest and out to the sides along the pectoral muscles. Next down the outer edges and back to the middle. After a while switch direction.

I particularly like stroking my breasts gently with my nails but there is a wide variety of ways to touch, massage and stroke your breasts. If you need some inspiration, please make sure to visit my Orgasmic Empowerment course for women which includes a step-by-step tutorial of a deeply sensual and arousing breast self-massage.


3/ Pillow riding

Most women always lie down while masturbating. They use their hands to stroke themselves but apart from that, they don’t move their bodies at all. Pillow riding is different. It deeply engages your entire body, allowing you a completely new level of experience.

Lie down on your belly and place a pillow under your pelvis. Next start moving your body and particularly your hips in a “riding” motion up and down the pillow. Use it to stimulate your intimate area while allowing the erotic energy to spread and expand through your entire body.


4/ Tease yourself

You know that your clitoris is the most sensitive part of your body, you know that it feels amazing when you stroke and stimulate it. But you also know that doing so will bring you to orgasm fairly quickly, particularly if you’re using a vibrator.

Instead of giving yourself exactly what you desire, tease yourself by touching everywhere BUT the clit. Massage your entire vulva, stroke your outer and inner lips up and down and once you drive yourself wild with desire, only then indulge in clitoral stimulation.


5/ Clitoral clock

Your clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve endings which makes it extremely sensitive. But not many women know that the quality of pleasure will change, depending on where exactly you’re stroking your clit.

Imagine that your pleasure button is a face of a clock with 12 o’clock being the top bit, closest to your pubic mound, and 6 o’clock being underneath, closer to the vaginal opening. And now take your time exploring pleasure sensations by stroking different o’clocks, one by one.

Most women report that 2 o’clock is the most delicious spot (your upper left side) and I definitely love my 2 o’clock. But for me personally, nothing beats 8 o’clock!


This is just a quick taste of what’s possible in the masturbation realm. If you want to learn more, I’ve recently released my new online course – Masturbation Coaching. The course is currently available at a heavily discounted price but the discount will only be available for 7 days after release! Use this code to access the discount: SELFLOVE




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3 Things that Will Make You an Exceptional Lover

3 Things that Will Make You an Exceptional Lover

I speak to a lot of people who want to be great lovers, both men and women.

I find that men can feel particularly inadequate or ashamed if they struggle to give their partners a wonderful experience in the bedroom. It seems that “being a man” means, among other things – being a fantastic lover, being able to pleasure and satisfy a woman sexually every time. But sex for most of us is no simple matter and a lot of different factors can affect our erotic experience.

Plus, women also face struggles in the bedroom, hence the popularity of sex tips and advice in Cosmo and other magazines. Unfortunately, this kind of articles only offer superficial and often contradictory advice. They focus on strokes and techniques that can be helpful but don’t address deeper, more meaningful needs and desires that we experience between the sheets.

And today I want to address this. Watch my video to learn about 3 powerful things that will help anybody become an exceptional lover.

The video content:

We all want to be amazing lovers and create an exceptional experience between the sheets, both for ourselves and our partners. But in the world where superficial sexual advice is abundant, we all can get a bit confused with all the contradictory tips from Cosmo and other magazines. So today I’m going to tell you about 3 powerful secrets of the lovemaking art that not many people know about.


You are versed in the art of teasing. You take your time and play your partner’s body like an instrument. You know how to take them into heights of pleasure but you’re in no rush to get anywhere. You stroke and caress to build arousal and to entice desire. But you also know the sweet torture of keeping your partner on the edge and not quite getting them there.

You know that an orgasm is not only about the destination but mostly about the journey. You are very aware that the best pleasure and orgasms happen NOT when you get there quickly but when you take your sweet time and bring your partner there slowly.


You’re curious about sex and you maybe even study and master different techniques, strokes and practices. But deep down you know that exceptional sex is not about your performance or about any particular technique but about the experience itself. So in every moment you remain present – present in your own body, noticing your own sensations and pleasure and also present with your partner, tuning in and feeling into them and their pleasure.

You are aware that your bodies have an inner wisdom and that following that wisdom will guide you better than any sex manual or scripted performance. You watch out for your partner’s response, you watch their breath, muscle tension, their sounds and reactions. And you allow their body to guide your touch, pace and movement.


You genuinely have a wonderful time in bed! Whether you’re giving or receiving, you know that touch is always two-directional and you delight in every little stroke and caress. You touch with awareness, with feeling. There is nothing automatic, mechanical or absent-minded about your lovemaking. In every moment you’re tuned in and you find delight in the responses of your own body and the responses of your partner.

You’re engaged, you’re keen and you genuinely want to be there. Your lovemaking is always intentional. And by that I mean that you don’t just go with the flow. You create the flow! You intend to have an amazing time, you intend to enjoy and give mind-blowing pleasure and you treat sex as a conscious practice.

And now I want to hear from you! What makes an exceptional lover in your experience? Please share in the comments below because I’d love to hear from you.



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And what makes my blood boil is when these people fall prey to advertising that takes advantage of their insecurities between the sheets. There are products created for both men and women that promise to fix us and improve our experience in the bedroom. These products and services can cost up to thousands of dollars, while not offering any actual benefit in return.

These companies attempt to profit from the fact that as a society we’re not educated properly about sex. And in many cases we don’t realize that there are simple ways to support and cultivate our sexuality, ways that don’t require any products, or expense.

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Video content:

I was recently involved in a conversation about products that “make your vagina tighter”. It’s become a trendy thing to have a ‘tight vagina’ and the marketing is targeting insecurities of women who feel inadequate in this area. The other people I was having this conversation with were also sex coaches and it was beyond the doubt obvious to all of us that a tight vagina is NOT something good, healthy or desirable. And yet so many products are sold with this exact promise. So let me tell you today why in fact a tight vagina is not a good thing and what you should desire instead.

The society imposes a lot of stigma onto women who for whatever reason do not have tight vaginas. Women who gave birth might be perceived as ‘stretched’ and not tight enough. They’re usually recommended Kegel exercises to increase the tone of their pelvic area. But there’s also negative associations with a ‘loose vagina’, meaning if you can’t squeeze his dick inside of you like a MF, you’ve had too much sex, your vagina is loose and hence you’re a “loose” woman, unworthy of respect.

So women either go crazy with Kegel exercises or they invest in products that promise to tighten their vaginas. Both approaches are flawed. Now don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with good old Kegels, in fact I recommend them to SOME women I see. There are muscles in your pelvic area and they should be used and worked, just like any other muscles in your body.

But if all you do with your vagina is tighten and squeeze it, you will create a lot of tension, constriction AND reduced sensitivity. And that’s NOT going to make sex pleasurable or fun. So instead of striving for a tight vagina, create a FLEXIBLE vagina instead. And the difference is profound.

Because you see, the delicious tightness that he experiences inside of your vagina when you’re making love is not caused by you having strong pelvic muscles but by your engorged erectile tissue. When a woman gets aroused, her genitals area swells with all the blood rushing in. It works in a similar way to a man’s erection. He’s aroused, the blood starts rushing in and his penis gets hard.

In a very similar way, women get erections as well, they’re just less obvious. When a woman is aroused and all the blood is rushing in, it fills up the erectile tissue in her genital area and causes engorgement. When that engorgement happens, her inner and outer lips become swollen and darker in colour. But what you don’t see is all the rest of her erectile tissue that is inside of her, surrounding the vaginal walls.

So when a woman is aroused, her vagina becomes naturally “tight” because she’s engorged and all the areas are filled with blood. And that’s a good thing! That kind of engorgement and “tightness” causes increased sensitivity, more lubrication and a lot more pleasure for her. But if she’s struggling to get aroused, if her erectile tissue is NOT engorged and she’s trying to squeeze her pelvic floor muscle instead, she’s just going to experience constriction, tension and a degree of numbness in her genitals.

So creating a tone and fitness in your pelvic area needs to come hand in hand with creating openness, relaxation and sensitivity. And one of my absolutely favourite exercises to create that is my Breath of Passion technique which I describe in detail in my Orgasmic Empowerment for Women course. But there are many ways to cultivate that kind of flexibility and sensuality in your body. With the easiest one being simply placing attention on your pelvic area and relaxing it fully. Just feeling it relax more and more.

So PLEASE let’s stop chasing tight vaginas! They’re not healthy, they’re not receptive and they’re not sensitive! Instead let’s cultivate vaginas that are open, sexy, capable of healthy arousal and amazing pleasure. Please share with me your thoughts on this topic and let me know whether you’d prefer a tight or a flexible and sensual vagina! And if you’re interested in learning more, check out my Orgasmic Empowerment course for women.

Have a fabulous week! See you next time!



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