How Much Would You Pay for Hope

How Much Would You Pay for Hope

When Paul came to see me, he looked like a man who lost all hope. He seemed sceptical and very bitter about his sexual life. I could clearly see that he’d had his fair share of pain and disappointment.

 

Paul struggled with severe premature ejaculation. Not only he couldn’t last longer than a minute during sex but he also suffered crippling anxiety about his sexual performance. This anxiety kept him from interacting with women and creating a romantic relationship. The fear of her reaction and her judgment was more than he could handle so he’d been single (and lonely!) for a long time.

 

On top of all that, Paul had spent the last few years seeking help and had spent over $12,000 on pills and treatments that were meant to help – with no result. Let me say that again – HE SPENT OVER $12,000, paying for medication and treatment that was meant to help but didn’t…

 

I was horrified when I heard that! I am extremely angry with companies that capitalize on people’s insecurities and suffering. And this was a case of extreme fraud and abuse.

 

I NEVER direct my clients to take any tablets or medication. As a somatic sexologist, I know the power of conscious work with the body. My main tools are breath, muscle control and placement of awareness.

 

During the session, I taught Paul how to consciously work with his body and with his arousal. We spoke about his experiences and worked with the trauma stuck in his physical and energetic body. At the end of the session, I charged Paul my hourly rate and he went on his way.

 

Two weeks later I heard from him. He sounded like a new man! He was excited, joyful and extremely grateful. He’d been working with the exercises I gave him and he’d started seeing significant improvement in his performance.

 

After one session with me, he couldn’t thank me enough for turning his life around.

 

He reported feeling much more hopeful and excited about finally meeting a woman and creating a sexually fulfilling relationship.

 

WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR EXPERINCE EITHER USING TABLETS AND TREATMENTS OR BEING WITH SOMEONE WHO’S USED THEM?

 

And if you resonate with Paul’s experience and would like to explore whether my sessions are a good fit for you right now, book a free 15mins chat with me!

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How to Create Legendary Pleasure

How to Create Legendary Pleasure

Last weekend I had an absolute pleasure of running a Legendary Pleasure workshop at the Taste of Love festival. This was an advanced version of the workshop I ran at Confest a few weeks earlier.

 

At Confest, the atmosphere was very relaxed and I took my participants through a much more basic experience. But last weekend, I decided to go much deeper and brought together more profound and powerful knowledge and practices in order to create a true and deep transformation in the audience.

 

The results were absolutely amazing! Some people cried, some laughed, some entered full-body states of ecstatic bliss without being touched by anybody and some experienced the deepest ever experience of connection with another human being – watch Alice’s testimonial here.

 

So what did I do to create this kind of experiences?

 

I made my audience meet themselves, fully. Free from the conditioning, from the hurts and wounding, free from any limiting beliefs and skewed perceptions. I supported them in getting to the core of who they really are as human beings and what it means to actually feel themselves completely.

 

In the description of the workshop I wrote:

“We are all ecstatic already but most of the time we don’t feel it.”

 

It’s a bold claim but I absolutely stand by it. Due to a variety of reasons, we live our lives mostly disconnected from the true depth of sensitivity of our physical bodies. From a very young age we learn to suppress the desires of the body and to follow the thinking mind. Think back to sitting in a school class as a child – I bet your body was giving you nudges to get out of there and play but listening to the physical impulses would have been punished. So instead, you spent hours every day sitting at a desk – studying, analysing, passing tests, etc.

 

Our sexual selves are also under a lot of pressure not to be expressed too freely. At its core, our society is not ok with our eroticism and so many people develop a high level of disconnect from their naked bodies or their genitalia. It’s truly sad because our bodies are full of sensuality and our ability to feel pleasure is immense! But we’re selling ourselves short when we’re in a state of shame, guilt or embarrassment about our bodies.

 

As a somatic sexologist, I am trained to guide others past all this conditioning and all the toxic patterns, in order to make my clients break through the sexual suppression. I also help them heal the disconnect and transform it into deeply embodied states of pleasure and sensual bliss – in the bedroom AND in their lives.

 

And this is why this work is so transformative.

Because when you finally get to feel your body fully, it feels like coming home. It feels like you’ve finally broken through a thick veil that was keeping you numb and confused.

 

And that’s when you get to experience yourself as a fully alive, vibrant (and vibrating) human being. Because it feels SO GOOD to be alive, to connect to our bodies. And the good news is that it’s never too late – to learn to feel, to re-sensitize our bodies and to embrace the fullness of our erotic sensuality. And once we can feel so much pleasure naturally and effortlessly, there’s no limit to what we can experience in the bedroom!

 

I keep being asked to record the Legendary Pleasure workshop as a webinar in order to make it accessible globally. Please comment below if you’d like that to happen and I’ll keep you updated!

 

 

See if my online courses are for you! I offer Orgasmic Empowerment for women and Tantric Mastery for men among my other offerings.

You can also enquire about my 1on1 private coaching packages.

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My Painful Wakeup Call

My Painful Wakeup Call

The more work I do as a sex coach, the more aware I become of the depth and complexity of human sexuality. We all want and desire different things in the bedroom and we all have different ideas when it comes to creating a deeply connected and fulfilling intimacy. And since we live in a society that treats sex as a dirty topic, majority of people suffer some degree of frustration, pain or shame in the bedroom. This deeply impacts our relationship with intimacy, with our bodies and our genitalia.

 

My own expression of sexuality was strongly repressed from a very young age and over the years, I felt completely helpless to change or shift anything. I experienced sex as painful, uncomfortable and disconnected. I held deep shame and guilt around my erotic desires. And I lived a sex life of quiet resignation – it was what it was and since I was unable to experience intercourse as pleasurable, I just had to put up with the discomfort.

 

This continued until life gave me a dramatic wakeup call by creating the most painful and shocking experience of my life. Not many people are woken up from their daily suffering by a trip to an emergency room – but I was. And that day, I knew that I couldn’t put up with status quo any longer.

 

If you’ve ever been sitting in an emergency room in agonizing pain, waiting for your turn to see a doctor, you know just how long every minute seems to be. As my entire pelvis kept contracting in excruciating pain, I wasn’t sure if I was dying or just about to learn that I had seriously damaged my body. Fortunately, neither was the case and an hour later, I was on my way home, free of pain but deeply shaken.

 

Every single person has their own way of healing and transformation. My own started that very day and what followed was years of profound learning, experiencing and growing for me. I used a rich variety of modalities from conventional therapy to shamanic rituals and every day I was becoming more and more connected to my own eroticism. Every day I was learning more about myself as a sexual being and every day I was feeling more pleasure in my body.

 

There were a few really significant points of my journey:

The day I learned to work with my arousal patterns and started experiencing sex as extremely pleasurable,

The day I learned to use my masturbation practice to deepen my sensitivity and the sensuality of my body,

The day I learned the basics of tantric sexuality and had my first full-body orgasm with a partner,

The day I understood how my erotic mind works and then dived much deeper into my orgasmic potential…

 

My wakeup call was fairly dramatic and made me reconsider everything I knew about sex and pleasure. It also led me to discovering my passion for Tantra and sexuality. Your own wakeup call can be much more subtle and can come as a gentle self-enquiry: what do you need to change, heal or shift in order to discover the fullness of your erotic expression?

And if/when you feel like you might need some support, please reach out to schedule a call with me.

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