Art of Intimacy or Intimate Art?

Art of Intimacy or Intimate Art?

Years ago, I used to live with an ex-partner of mine who was an art lover. His living room, his bedroom and even his kitchen were decorated with paintings and sculptures that captivated him so deeply at one time or another, that he decided to bring them home. The fact that these were mainly classical artists was just one reason for my surprise. The other part of it was the theme of most of the pieces – eroticism.


Gustav Klimt’s “Virgins” and Auguste Rodin’s “Kiss” were just two pieces of his extensive collection and my personal favourites. I loved watching his art pieces, I loved having them around, I loved feeling into their atmosphere, trying to guess what the artist was thinking while creating them. But most of all – I loved the sensual and intimate ambience that they were creating. I felt both fascinated and a little naughty while watching the naked bodies, intimate positions and erotic moments.

And this is why this week I’d love to introduce you to Veronica Blanco. Veronica is an artist based in Toronto, whose passion and interest are relationships and intimacy (my absolute fav topics in the world!). Her work really captivated me! I love the way she uses visual arts to express romantic connection, closeness and eroticism. I think that every couple in the world should have at least one sensual piece in their bedroom, inspiring them to always make time for intimacy and sexual fun. I also want to add that I’m not receiving any commission for this article! I love the art and the message behind it.


Meet Veronica!



Helena: Why did you choose love and relationships as the focus of your art? What do you aim to express through your art?

Veronica: I enjoy working in this subject matter, I found a topic that I am fascinated with, provides so much room to explore and quite frankly, I think we are all a romantic.

I’m mainly inspired from personal moments and the people around me. Whichever embrace or moment that interests me, I try my best to depict with paint. People may think I am painting myself in the painting which isn’t necessarily true, I am painting moments that interest me. The couples in my paintings are a representation of all couples. It could be you and your lover or your friends or a couple on the street. I paint them without any facial characteristics because I want people to see themselves in the paintings.


H: Who is your art for?

V: I paint for myself and I strongly believe that all art should be created as an expression by the artist and not created for others. I do take commission work of course but mostly all my paintings have been made because I wanted to explore the subject. I’m lucky to say that I have people who love my work and support me enough to buy my paintings. It’s always gratifying to see a new painting sold to a new home because at the end of the day, I created the piece for myself and I’m so happy to see that others can relate to the piece.



H: Can you share some stories of impact your art has had on your clients?

V: Most of my clients have bought my paintings because they personally relate to the piece. Either because they see themselves in it, relate to the moment or it even reminded them of a song. Once I had a client who saw my painting, immediately called her partner, sent him a picture and bought it instantly because it reminded her of them. It’s always rewarding having that happen especially when clients are instantly drawn to my work.




About Veronica:

Veronica Blanco is a Toronto based visual artist concentrating in painting and drawing. She received her BFA with Honours in Visual Arts from York University in the spring of 2014. Her work is passionately personal, a visual examination of love and relationships. Inspired by personal moments and the people around her, Veronica explores the intimacy, passion and even struggles between couples. She’s intrigued by the power of the human figure to allure us and the messages found in body language.


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I know people who have never cheated on their partners in their entire lives. And I know people who can’t help themselves but cheat in every relationship they’re in. I’ve seen little, short-lived affairs that seemingly didn’t cause any damage. And big ones, that went on for years and ripped hearts into pieces and caused depths of despair.


For most people, being cheated on is hard to get over. The damage can be irreparable and the wounds can haunt us for years. Many couples are capable of moving past the affair and heal. People learn to forgive but they never forget. People who have been cheated on, often struggle in their future relationships. They struggle to trust again and keep suspecting betrayal on every corner.


Always cheated

One of my exes was cheated on by every woman he had been with before me. I was the first partner that had been loyal to him. Yet, instead of appreciating our connection, he was often pouring his bitterness all over our relationship, unable to get over past hurt and trauma. I kept paying the price of every instance of betrayal in his past, until I had enough and walked away. And this situation is fairly common among modern couples!


Big question

So, I have to ask the big question: WHY? Why do people cheat? Why do we stray? What is so alluring that we risk our relationship, our love, our happiness… We risk breaking the heart of that one person that we’re closest to in the entire world.


And after studying sex, intimacy and relationships for years, I keep seeing again and again the same pattern and the same illusion – that a new partner will give us what the current partner is not. Or that possibly we made a mistake with our current relationship and we missed out on our one-and-true-love. And now they’re finally in front of us and we need to be with them, no matter the consequences.


Walt Disney = BS

And this is where I have a very deep issue with Walt Disney. A lot of us grew up with the idea of princesses finding their princes and living happily ever after. And I truly want to call BS on this story. The process of dating, falling in love and getting to know each other is the easy part. Once you’re a ‘thing’, the real work starts. Real life begins.


Every committed, long-lasting relationship has its ups and downs. There are times when we’re bursting with love, joy and gratitude. And there are days when we can barely look at our partner as they annoy the hell out of us. Sometimes we cry, argue and scream. Other times we make love, talk, support each other and hold each other through tough times. And in between – we clean, shop, work, socialize and raise kids.


Have you found The One?

Most people are so stuck on finding The One, they’re missing out on the fact that they are the creators of their relationships. Let me repeat that – you are creating your relationship as you go! If you have unhealthy patterns, wounding and toxic beliefs, you will turn to shit the most fabulous crush in the world. And after you find yourself unhappy, disillusioned and depressed again, you’ll figure you chose wrong and turn your eyes to someone else, only to find out again that in the end they can’t make you happy either!


The truth is, there are many different reasons we cheat. Life is complex and human beings are infinitely complicated. But in majority of cases, cheating is caused by an immature belief that someone new is better than someone old. And that a thrill of a new connection can create eternal happiness and solve all our problems.

And if you’re recognizing this belief as your own, please, think again!


What are you looking for?

Your current relationship is a result of your past actions, thoughts and beliefs. If you’re looking elsewhere to find happiness and fulfilment, it might be time to revisit your own thoughts and beliefs first. Before you decide to sneakily spend some time with that attractive stranger, ask yourself: what am I looking for?


Most people don’t cheat for sex but to feel important to someone, to feel appreciated and seen. And if that’s your case, how can you bring more quality time into your relationship?


Don’t trust Disney! Take matters into your own hands and actively create the life and intimacy that you desire!

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