Escaping to a Naked Paradise

Escaping to a Naked Paradise

I recently came back from Confest – an alternative gathering of a few thousand of people, held in the bush, near the border of Victoria and NSW. The attendees set up their tents and motorhomes to spend Easter together, surrounded by nature, trees, river and birds. There is no amplified music there and the main themes of the event are community, family, living close to nature, embracing nudity and learning from each other.

My time there was extremely insightful and made me question a lot of things that we as a society take for granted. In fact, I cried in the car on my way home, realizing that at the end of my trip I had to face the normal life again.

 

“Normal” life

The ‘normal’ life is for most of us the life of separation – stuck in our beautiful homes or offices, we rarely know our neighbours or wider community.

The ‘normal’ life is a life of stress – we’re stuck in a rat race, purchasing things we cannot afford and stressing about working harder in order to pay our debts.

The ‘normal’ life is a life of 9-5 – tolerating Monday to Friday in order to do things we like on the weekends.

The society trains us to live life in a certain way, to the point that we do not question it anymore.

And this is why every time I escape to the bush and spend some time with other crazy hippies, I have a mini breakdown upon returning home.

 

Clothing optional paradise

We all enjoy being nude, yet we can only indulge in it in the privacy of our homes.

Somebody decided that it was indecent to be naked and our bodies became sexualized.

But anybody who is offended by naked strangers, should spend a few days at Confest.

After one day of an initial shock, seeing naked bodies everywhere becomes normal, natural.

Naked bodies are beautiful and healthy.

Naked people are not sexual – they’re just people.

Every clothing optional event I attend reminds me just how good it feels to be naked!

 

What is ‘normal’?

I actually feel that what we’ve come to consider normal, is really not.

My body and emotional states guide me in what serves me and what doesn’t.

My soul sings when I’m out in the bush, when I disconnect from the electronic devices and wake up to the sunrise, hearing birds and watching kangaroos.

I feel happy and nurtured when being surrounded by a happy, supportive community.

I thrive on simple, plant based foods.

I love watching people dropping all the “shoulds” and “should nots” in their lives, while embracing their true, authentic, colourful selves.

And I believe that this is the normal, this is how we are meant to live.

 

What if…

In the current world, the festival culture is a way to escape, even if only briefly, the reality that we’ve built for ourselves.

But what if we could bring it to our everyday lives?

What would happen if we all could express ourselves freely – through our clothing (or lack of), through our behaviour, our homes, our families?

What would happen if we abandoned the “shoulds”, the suits, the patterns of behaviour that serve somebody else’s profit?

What if we abandoned “profit” as a driving force and embraced community, compassion and connection instead?

I do wonder…

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How to Recreate the Magic in Your Relationship

Some time ago I came across a video made by The School of Life titled ‘How to Travel in your Mind’.

I love to travel and wish I could indulge in it even more than I already do, so I was interested to learn more.

The video explains how we can derive much more pleasure and fun out of our trips if we revisit them in our heads instead of forgetting all about them as soon as we come back home.

When we travel, we encounter so many amazing, exciting and interesting people, places and events.

Consciously indulging in our memories can allow us to re-live some of that thrill again and again, and again.

 

The video explains:

“In our neglect of our memories we are spoilt children who squeeze only a portion of the pleasure from our experiences and then toss them aside to seek new thrills. Part of why we feel the need for so many new experiences may simply be that we’re so bad at absorbing the ones we’ve had.”

 

“Our experiences have not disappeared just because they’re no longer unfolding right in front of our eyes. We can remain in touch with so much of what made them pleasurable simply through the art of evocation.”

 

It got me thinking…

If we can bring back the magic of holidays and travels, why not the magical moments in our relationships?

I can still remember so many truly beautiful moments that happened with my partners over the years.

Particularly all the firsts are highly memorable – first kiss, first touch, first deep conversation, first night spent together…

They’re charged with intense emotions which we can feel again once we immerse ourselves in the memory.

 

As time goes by, every couple creates their own memories of highly significant, pleasurable or exciting moments.

In a way, we all have our own ‘mind libraries’ full of wonderful times we spent together, events we enjoyed and obstacles we overcame.

 

I believe that each couple would benefit greatly from revisiting these memories of the initial period of their relationship

– the first dates, first kiss, first time they made love – and also all the special holidays together, romantic getaways and all the little things that melted their hearts about each other during their relationship so far.

 

The great thing about it is that the brain doesn’t distinguish very well between reality and a memory so it will make you feel the emotions you felt at the time.

So as you remember all those special moments together, the magic of that initial connection and all subsequent moments will be felt in your body and in your heart.

 

How about making it a weekly habit – revisiting in vivid detail one of your beautiful, treasured memories.

You might find that your partner reminds you of something that you have forgotten about and vice versa!

These little pearls will surely bring a big smile to your faces and a loving warmth to your hearts.

 

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I was soon crying as I began to read it. The sort of happy tears when a lost child finds the way home.
What touched me is the things common to our backgrounds: Polish parents, Catholic repression, the “silent message” that sex is the biggest evil, a life almost ruined by shame and guilt…and breaking free from it all to find true bliss in reconnecting with the Divine.

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Besides being authentic, your personal experience inspires us to realise, ‘Hey, I could learn this, too.’ ”

 

These words written by Steve in UK touched me very deeply. Even though the book was launched very recently, I’ve already started receiving beautiful words of encouragement, support and gratitude from all over the world.

My biggest hope for this book is that people will recognize their own stories in mine and that it will give them hope and comfort.

 

The hardest thing about my life before Tantra was feeling painfully lonely in my experience.

I thought that I was the only person in the world who didn’t enjoy sex, who didn’t find pleasure in it.

I used to treat it as a chore, a price I had to pay for being in a relationship.

Sex was causing me a lot of physical discomfort and I was far away from any type of orgasmic sensations.

I felt inadequate and broken.

 

The movies were full of ecstatic sex and nobody around me was complaining of lack of satisfaction in bed.

I felt ashamed and embarrassed.

Back then I would never admit to anybody that I wasn’t getting this whole sex thing, that I wasn’t good at it.

 

Only when I started studying Tantra and sexology, the truth hit me – barely anybody in our society is truly satisfied with their sex lives!

Most people suffer from some degree of sexual frustration, pain, trauma or longing for more in their intimacy.

Particularly long-term couples often struggle with boredom, routine and disappointment in bed.

So I started to wonder – where are all the people having amazing sex?

And how do they do it?

 

Tantra answered all these questions for me and more.

Once I discovered the path of sacred sex, there was no turning back for me.

After years of pain, abuse and suffering, I was finally home.

 

What followed was two years of learning, healing and self-exploration.

I had no proper guidance and stumbled many times on my way.

But nothing could stop me in my passionate pursuit of tantric knowledge and experience.

I kept attending training events, reading books, watching videos, seeing tantric practitioners and doing my own practice at home.

I learned a lot and little by little, I became more orgasmic and more connected to my pleasure and body.

Over the space of two years I went from being completely shut-down sexually to being a multi-orgasmic goddess.

 

This is why I feel so compelled to share my story.

I want everybody to be able to follow my journey and let go of all the sexual repression we are exposed to in our society.

I want everybody to have access to beautiful tantric practices, rituals and techniques that completely turned my life around.

 

Sexuality is a crucial aspect of our lives and as long as we suffer sexually, we cannot be truly fulfilled and satisfied with our lives in general.

Once we re-connect to our sexual selves and remember who we really are, we’ll realize that sex is much more than a pleasurable pass-time.

Sex is a gateway to our ecstatic selves – in the bedroom and outside of it.

 

If you’d like to learn more, you can purchase “Legendary Lover” from my website or from Amazon!

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