How to Give a Man a Lingam Massage

How to Give a Man a Lingam Massage

Last week I shared with you beautiful strokes and techniques of a yoni massage that men can pamper their partners with. This week we’re continuing in the spirit of giving and offering love, intimacy, affection and pleasure. And now it’s time for ladies to offer genital massage to their partners – what’s called ‘Lingam massage’ in Tantra.

Below is a selection of my favourite penis strokes for most pleasure, fun and bliss.

But ladies – do make sure to go slow and tease your partner instead of making him cum quickly. This massage should take at least 30 minutes so if he’s getting too aroused, stop the genital stimulation and guide him to relax and breathe deeply. Once his erection goes down a bit, you can resume the lingam strokes.


Tips: use massage oil, keep asking for feedback, be creative, have fun!

1/ Waking up the area: massage the groin, gently massage the scrotum (pull the skin, tug on pubic hair, scratch, caress – don’t massage the testicles, just the scrotal skin), massage pubic bone.

2/ Sweeping it up: place hands on inner left thigh and sweep along the thigh up over the penis and down the inside of the other thigh. Repeat back and forth a few times.

3/ Jiggle: cup your hand over the head of the penis so your fingertips hold the top of the shaft and jiggle your hand making a vibration. Stop and jiggle again.

4/ Rock around the clock: firmly stroke along the shaft of the penis, one palm after the other from the base up the head, then starting again at the base. Keep changing the direction so you take the lingam through all the hours of the clock. In the 12 o’clock you’re stroking towards the navel, at 6 o’clock – straight down.

5/ Up and down: hold his lingam at the middle of the shaft with the left hand just below the right. Have the lower hand stroke from the middle of the shaft down to the base and as the upper hand strokes at the same time from the middle up over the head. Add a little twist for an extra sensation.

6/ Infinite penetration: make a circle with the thumb and fingers of your left hand and take that circle over the head of his wand so it has to push through, like entering your yoni. Now put your other hand on top of that, making an open fist like the cylindrical shape of the barrel. Slide your hands down so the lingam passes through both hands until the circle on your left hand reaches the base of his lingam. Then immediately start him entering a circle made again with your left hand and so on.

7/ Pop the cork: imagine your dominant hand is a bottle opener. Have the palm facing upwards and the head of his lingam gently held between your well-oiled first and second knuckles. With the base of his lingam held by your other hand, run your upper hand along the top half of the penis shaft in a twisting motion as though you were popping  cork.

8/ Making fire: roll the lingam between the palms of your hands as if you were rubbing two sticks together to create a fire. The lingam is the fire stick. Start slowly, build up to a faster pace, then slow down again.

9/ Stroking the frenulum: if your man has a foreskin, gently pull it down. Support the lingam with your fingers while your thumbs are massaging the frenulum in circles. Get feedback as this area can be extremely sensitive.

10/ Juicer: hold the lingam at the base, with the other hand act as if you were juicing a lemon on the head of his penis. Use your fingertips to make circular motion to ‘juice’ up and down along the shaft.

11/ Lingam shiatsu: support the penis with your fingers while your thumbs make circular strokes all the way up the shaft, from the base up to the head.


You can print out these tips or memorize them. But definitely give this massage a go and comment below on your partner’s reaction!

And if you’re curious to learn more, I offer over 50 more lingam strokes in my Legendary Lover online course for men!


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How to Give a Woman a Yoni Massage

How to Give a Woman a Yoni Massage

What is yoni massage?


Yoni massage is a beautiful ceremony of worshipping your partner’s body and genitals. 

In the tantric tradition the lovers celebrate each intimate moment together by creating rituals that infuse their connection with a sense of specialness and sacredness.

From the outside, it looks a lot like a vulva or a vagina massage. But there’s so much more to an amazing yoni massage. And I’m here to show you the step-by-step process on how to give a woman a tantric yoni massage that will completely change her life.

The Benefits of Giving a Yoni Massage


– Stronger intimate connection that brings more love and tenderness between the two of you 

– Increasing her body’s pleasure potential and sensitivity to your touch (which means an all round more satisfying sex life – Yes please!)

– Increasing her orgasmic potential (which means you’re giving her a much stronger, mind-blowing, toe-curling orgasms)

– Help her to feel more sexually empowered and alive in her body

– Increase your own knowledge of her body, her pleasure zones, what she likes and how to turn her on.


OK. I’m Ready. What’s The Yoni Massage process?


Start by preparing the space – cleaning the bedroom and beautifying it. You can prepare some music, bring candles, extra cushions, incense sticks, etc. It should be warm, cozy and inviting. (You want her to feel comfortable so she can really let go)

Next invite her to sit down on the bed with you and tell her something beautiful about her. Tell her what you love about her, what you appreciate about her, what you’re looking forward to.


After that spend a few minutes simply looking into her eyes. Eye-gazing is a very simple, yet deeply profound ritual of connection and intimacy.


When she’s ready, invite her to lie down and spend at least 15 minutes relaxing her body. Use gentle, soft, flowing strokes. Imagine that you’re making love to her skin with your hands.


Once she’s deeply relaxed, you can begin to massage her genitals – her yoni. Here is a list of tips and strokes that you will find useful. Make sure to also use your creativity and imagination. The yoni massage process is not set in stone and should flow in response to what her body wants and needs.


Tips: use massage oil, take your time, keep asking for feedback and remember to have fun!


Specific Yoni Massage Techniques


Here is a range of yoni massage techniques that you can use to worship and give your woman pleasure. You can pick and choose as you like, but I highly recommend you start with 1-5, or just follow these yoni massage steps all the way through.


1/ Waking up the area:

Massage lower abdomen in circular strokes, rest one hand over the genitals, the other one on the heart, massage the groin, knead and scratch the pubic mound, grab fingerfuls of pubic hair and pull.

2/ Vibrate the vulva:

Place your entire hand over the vulva. Hold and vibrate.

3/ Saying hello:

With well-oiled hands pet the vulva with long, slow strokes from top to bottom.

4/ Outer labia massage:

Hold left outer labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

5/ Inner labia massage:

Hold left inner labia between your thumb and fingertips and lovingly massage. Go slowly. Repeat on the other side.

6/ Tour de France:

With one hand gently pull the pubic mound up toward the belly to open up the vulva. With a finger of your other hand, trace a circle between inner and outer labia from the perineum to above the clitoris and back to the perineum. For extra yum, add a little loop around the clitoris.

7/ Divine drumming:

Tap the inner thighs and vulva with your flat hand, as if playing a drum. Ask for feedback – harder? softer? faster? slower?

8/ Breath of spring:

Gently part the labia and blow air on them.

9/ Rock around the clit clock:

Pretend that the clitoris is the center of a clock. With your finger, make tiny circles immediately to the side of the clit, stopping at the location of each hour.

10/ Insert one finger:

Ask for permission and use lots of oil. Very slowly, insert one finger in the vagina. Don’t do anything once you’re inside, just be there.

11/ The four directions:

With one or two fingers inside the vagina, stroke or press firmly upward (toward the ceiling). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise and press to one side. Turn your hand 90 degrees again and press downward (toward the floor). Turn your hand 90 degrees clockwise once more and press to the other side. Repeat.

12/ The G-spot:

Locate and massage the entire urethral sponge with one or two fingers.

13/ The doorbell:

Press firmly on the g-spot, as if ringing a doorbell. Press, release, press, release…

14/ Kegels:

Invite your partner to add kegels.


This is really just the beginning and in my Tantric Mastery online course I teach more yoni strokes and other powerful techniques to pleasure a woman. Click here to check it out to learn everything you need to know to become the best lover she’s ever had.


This massage is a very special experience for any woman as it will place her in a state of a trance-like ecstatic bliss. However, orgasm should never be an end goal here. If she orgasms – great! If she doesn’t – no problem. She will experience the level of pleasure she has likely never felt before and it will take her into a place of deep pleasure and satisfaction.

The massage should take at least 30 minutes or more, depending on how generous you’re feeling!

The main point is – take your time and stay present with her body, watch her responses, keep checking for feedback and enjoy!

Want to know what the equivalent looks like for men? Click here for an amazing Lingam Massage for men! (You can use these techniques for yourself, or give this to your partner so they have an easy step-by-step process to follow as well)

Helena Nista Sex Therapist
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