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We all enjoy pleasure. In fact our primal instinct is to seek pleasure and avoid pain. But how much pleasure exactly are we allowing in our lives?…
A week ago I started to consciously bring more pleasure into my life – taking long, luxurious baths with scented Epsom salts, having that coffee break when I need it, while indulging in a piece of dark organic chocolate, listening to beautiful music while performing chores at home, enjoying a glass of my favourite wine at dinner time, having extra long self-pleasuring sessions as often as I can, meeting my friends for long and meaningful conversations, preparing delicious meals, dancing, singing, reading, taking mindful breaks in the middle of a busy day… The list goes on!
Every time I focus on myself and ask what will bring pleasure into my life right now, I remember that there is something more important than work, to-do lists, shopping, cleaning and paying bills. And that is living a happy, mindful and fulfilling life. What is the point of meeting all the deadlines and having a perfectly clean home if you are exhausted and empty inside?
Nobody ever said on their deathbed “I wish I spent more time in the office.”
If you are not quite certain where to begin your pleasure journey, mindfulness is a great way to connect to your deepest inner desires and wishes. Take a moment to sit down in silence, close your eyes and notice the way your body is feeling. Our bodies speak to us the entire time, they know exactly what we need. They keep whispering but we usually do not listen. If this keeps going for a long period of time, the body will start resorting to more drastic measures – it will start speaking through pain and discomfort you will not be able to ignore. You might catch a cold if you really need to take a break and relax. That pounding headache might be a sign that you are pushing yourself too hard. Sore joints might be telling you that you carry too much weight. Digestive issues are a sign you are not eating properly. Etc.
Instead of ignoring physical discomfort or reaching for tablets whenever you experience pain, develop a habit of relaxing into your discomfort and listening to it with a loving compassion.
Years ago I used to feel irritated, tense and scared whenever I felt pain. What is wrong again? – I used to think with annoyance. Now I relax and lean into the pain with care and kindness. What is it that my body is telling me? What does it need? How can I take a better care of it?…
And more recently my focus has shifted even more – looking for new, creative ways to treat and pamper myself. How can I bring more pleasure into my day? – I ask. And my body tells me. And I listen.
I must admit I have been having an amazing week so far!
How are you going to get your pleasure fix today?
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