Pleasure Focus

Pleasure Focus

We all enjoy pleasure. In fact our primal instinct is to seek pleasure and avoid pain. But how much pleasure exactly are we allowing in our lives?…

A week ago I started to consciously bring more pleasure into my life – taking long, luxurious baths with scented Epsom salts, having that coffee break when I need it, while indulging in a piece of dark organic chocolate, listening to beautiful music while performing chores at home, enjoying a glass of my favourite wine at dinner time, having extra long self-pleasuring sessions as often as I can, meeting my friends for long and meaningful conversations, preparing delicious meals, dancing, singing, reading, taking mindful breaks in the middle of a busy day… The list goes on!

Every time I focus on myself and ask what will bring pleasure into my life right now, I remember that there is something more important than work, to-do lists, shopping, cleaning and paying bills. And that is living a happy, mindful and fulfilling life. What is the point of meeting all the deadlines and having a perfectly clean home if you are exhausted and empty inside?

Nobody ever said on their deathbed “I wish I spent more time in the office.”

If you are not quite certain where to begin your pleasure journey, mindfulness is a great way to connect to your deepest inner desires and wishes. Take a moment to sit down in silence, close your eyes and notice the way your body is feeling. Our bodies speak to us the entire time, they know exactly what we need. They keep whispering but we usually do not listen. If this keeps going for a long period of time, the body will start resorting to more drastic measures – it will start speaking through pain and discomfort you will not be able to ignore. You might catch a cold if you really need to take a break and relax. That pounding headache might be a sign that you are pushing yourself too hard. Sore joints might be telling you that you carry too much weight. Digestive issues are a sign you are not eating properly. Etc.

Instead of ignoring physical discomfort or reaching for tablets whenever you experience pain, develop a habit of relaxing into your discomfort and listening to it with a loving compassion.

Years ago I used to feel irritated, tense and scared whenever I felt pain. What is wrong again? – I used to think with annoyance. Now I relax and lean into the pain with care and kindness. What is it that my body is telling me? What does it need? How can I take a better care of it?…

And more recently my focus has shifted even more – looking for new, creative ways to treat and pamper myself. How can I bring more pleasure into my day? – I ask. And my body tells me. And I listen.

I must admit I have been having an amazing week so far!

How are you going to get your pleasure fix today?

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Crystal Pleasure Wand: My First Experience

Crystal Pleasure Wand: My First Experience

According to Rosie Rees: “The wand brings about a higher level of consciousness and vibration to your Yoni, sex life, but also to your own relationship to your body and self. It helps let go of the scripts we have of what sex should look like and allows us to trust our own pleasure-based instincts, guilt and shame free.”

My very own pleasure wand arrived yesterday, beautifully crafted from rose quartz, complete with a lovely velvet pouch. I washed it, cleansed it energetically by bathing it in white light and I set my intention. I intended for my wand to bring healing into my yoni and particularly to my cervix. Many women do not experience much pleasure or sensations in their cervixes due to years of harsh pounding experienced from insensitive lovers. I have already done a lot of healing on my cervix but I was still ready for more! I do not believe that our journey of sexual healing and awakening ever ends. There is always more sensation, more pleasure, new types of orgasm and deeper bliss to reach!

I took my wand to bed and inserted it into my vagina. I slowly pushed it all the way in until it reached the end wall. It felt very cold but I found it quite arousing for some reason. I kept caressing my vulva and clitoris in order to bring more arousal and juice in but I quickly realized that clitoral stimulation was taking too much of my attention away from my cervix. So I took my hand away and brought my entire focus to the wand inside me.

It is quite hard to describe what happened next. All I was doing was holding the wand in place, deep inside me, without a movement. I kept relaxing my body, sensing the coldness of the wand, sensing my arousal, feeling into all the new internal sensations, feeling into my pleasure. Probably a sleepy state I was in was helpful because my mind was completely free of thought, slightly drifting off, allowing my body to take over.

Suddenly, a wave of energy and awareness brought my attention back to my yoni. I felt a shift inside me and wondered what was happening. It felt like the wand was interacting with my cervix, like the two were talking to each other causing energetic changes inside me. A wave of rich, potent energy was flowing through my vagina, starting in the cervix. I stayed with these sensations, cherishing and savouring the experience.

I was very surprised at just how alive and vibrant my cervix felt against the wand. I could feel it so strongly, it was so responsive to the energy of rose quartz. Rosie claims that “rose quartz is the stone of unconditional love, warmth, healing, joy, compassion, forgiveness, self-acceptance, femininity and the heart chakra (thymus gland)”. I had previously massaged my cervix with fingers or silicone toys but I had never had any results that would come close to this new experience. It felt very healing, like my cervix was opening up to more pleasure, more sensations.

I must have drifted off to sleep a few times and each time I was brought back to consciousness by the energetic wave of awareness and pleasure happening inside me. I was truly mind blown by how much interaction was happening between my cervix and the wand…

As I woke up once again to the exquisite interplay of the vibrations of the crystal and my body’s response to it, I realized that it was getting quite late. With the wand still inside me, I started stimulating my clitoris and soon I brought myself to a very deep and expansive orgasm. Ecstatic energy kept flowing through my entire body, pulled inside me and up through me. I gave myself a few minutes to relax into this blissful state.

When I finally took the wand out, it was past 2.30am and my relaxed body was demanding sleep.

I remember thinking about just how much I did not want to pull the wand out. And as soon as the experience was over, I started looking forward to the next evening and my next healing session with my new pleasure wand.

I agree with Rosie – crystal wands are a fantastic alternative to plastic, rubber, silicone and latex toys. They bring in a very powerful and healing vibration of their own. Which makes them… natural vibrators! 😀

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